{"id":429884,"date":"2025-12-24T17:36:22","date_gmt":"2025-12-24T16:36:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=429884"},"modified":"2025-12-24T17:36:47","modified_gmt":"2025-12-24T16:36:47","slug":"dire-oui-pour-faire-plaisir-psy-decrypte-pourquoi-vous-narrivez-pas-poser-limites","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/cs\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/rikat-ano-abyste-potesili-ostatni-psycholog-vysvetluje-proc-si-nemuzete-stanovit-hranice-429884","title":{"rendered":"\u0158\u00edkat ano jen proto, abyste se zavd\u011b\u010dili ostatn\u00edm? Psycholog vysv\u011btluje, pro\u010d si nedok\u00e1\u017eete stanovit hranice."},"content":{"rendered":"

Va\u0161e hlava si mysl\u00ed \u201ene\u201c, ale va\u0161e \u00fasta \u0159\u00edkaj\u00ed \u201eano\u201c. Nen\u00ed to jen zdvo\u0159ilost nebo dobr\u00e9 mravy. Nemluv\u00ed jen va\u0161e laskavost. Proto slovo \u201eano\u201c vych\u00e1z\u00ed p\u0159irozen\u011b, i kdy\u017e se chcete schoulit pod pe\u0159inu s fleecovou p\u0159ikr\u00fdvkou a \u00fatulnou termoforem.<\/p>\n

Paradox Abilene, vysv\u011btlen\u00ed tv\u00e9ho \u201eano\u201c<\/h2>\n

P\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1te pozv\u00e1n\u00ed na ve\u010d\u00edrky, i kdy\u017e byste se mnohem rad\u011bji zahltili \u010dokol\u00e1dou p\u0159ed Netflixem, a p\u0159eskupujete si pl\u00e1ny na \u00fatuln\u00fd ve\u010der, abyste se z\u00fa\u010dastnili odchodu kolegy, kter\u00e9ho jste za celou svou kari\u00e9ru potkali jen jednou. I pot\u00e9, co jste si na dan\u00fd den u\u017eili spoustu spole\u010densk\u00e9 interakce, se nedok\u00e1\u017eete p\u0159im\u011bt k odm\u00edtnut\u00ed pozv\u00e1n\u00ed. Automaticky, bez velk\u00e9ho p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161len\u00ed, \u0159\u00edk\u00e1te \u201eano\u201c. V hloubi du\u0161e v\u00edte, \u017ee sv\u00e9ho rozhodnut\u00ed budete litovat, ale slovo \u201ene\u201c ve va\u0161em slovn\u00edku chyb\u00ed. Zn\u00ed to od v\u00e1s skoro neuctiv\u011b.<\/p>\n

Mo\u017en\u00e1 si vymysl\u00edte n\u011bjak\u00e9 pon\u011bkud trapn\u00e9 v\u00fdmluvy, jako t\u0159eba, \u017ee va\u0161e ko\u010dka je nemocn\u00e1 nebo \u017ee se ne\u010dekan\u011b zastavila va\u0161e matka. P\u0159esto jste neust\u00e1le oddan\u00ed a to nen\u00ed ani p\u0159izn\u00e1n\u00ed slabosti, ani zn\u00e1mka p\u0159ehnan\u00e9 laskavosti. M\u00e1te syndrom \u201eano\u201c, nebo sp\u00ed\u0161e trp\u00edte Abileneov\u00fdm paradoxem. Bu\u010fte uji\u0161t\u011bni, \u017ee to nen\u00ed ani patologick\u00e9, ani naka\u017eliv\u00e9. \u201eSituace, kdy skupina u\u010din\u00ed rozhodnut\u00ed<\/a> , kter\u00e9 nikdo doopravdy nechce, ale kter\u00e9 v\u0161ichni p\u0159ijmou, aby zachovali soci\u00e1ln\u00ed m\u00edr a\/nebo proto, \u017ee v\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee jsou jedin\u00ed, kdo sm\u00fd\u0161l\u00ed jinak. Pak se postav\u00ed na stranu... \u00fadajn\u00e9 v\u011bt\u0161iny,\u201c<\/em> vysv\u011btluje psycholo\u017eka Claire Petin v pou\u010dn\u00e9m videu na Instagramu.<\/p>\n

Konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edklad: nem\u00e1te absolutn\u011b \u017e\u00e1dnou touhu opakovat trapn\u00e9ho Tajn\u00e9ho Santu va\u0161\u00ed pokryteck\u00e9 firmy, ale kolektivn\u011b \u0159\u00edk\u00e1te \u201eano\u201c, abyste udr\u017eeli harmonii ve skupin\u011b. Abilenesk\u00fd paradox je typick\u00fd pro profesn\u00ed sv\u011bt a dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed. Rad\u011bji \u0159\u00edk\u00e1te \u201eano\u201c, i kdy\u017e v\u00e1s to dr\u00e1\u017ed\u00ed, ne\u017e abyste se stali \u010dernou ovc\u00ed skupiny. <\/p>\n

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P\u0159\u00edsp\u011bvek sd\u00edlen\u00fd u\u017eivatelem Claire (@clairepetin_psychologue)<\/a> <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n