{"id":434980,"date":"2026-02-21T15:20:18","date_gmt":"2026-02-21T14:20:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=434980"},"modified":"2026-02-21T14:49:46","modified_gmt":"2026-02-21T13:49:46","slug":"professeur-analyse-duree-ideale-passer-deux-cultiver-harmonie-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/cs\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/profesorova-analyza-idealni-doby-pro-straveni-dvou-kultivujicich-harmonicky-par-434980","title":{"rendered":"Profesor analyzuje ide\u00e1ln\u00ed mno\u017estv\u00ed \u010dasu, kter\u00e9 je t\u0159eba tr\u00e1vit spole\u010dn\u011b, aby se v p\u00e1ru rozv\u00edjela harmonie."},"content":{"rendered":"

Existuj\u00ed p\u00e1ry, kter\u00e9 d\u011blaj\u00ed v\u0161echno spole\u010dn\u011b a \u017eij\u00ed jako siamsk\u00e1 dvoj\u010data, a pak jsou tu dal\u0161\u00ed, kter\u00e9 se v\u00eddaj\u00ed jen kr\u00e1tce a \u017eij\u00ed sv\u00e9 \u017eivoty jako spolubydl\u00edc\u00ed. Podle Dr. Johna Gottmana, profesora psychologie na Washingtonsk\u00e9 univerzit\u011b, kter\u00fd studoval \u201eide\u00e1ln\u00ed mno\u017estv\u00ed \u010dasu str\u00e1ven\u00e9ho spole\u010dn\u011b\u201c, nen\u00ed d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 ani tak d\u00e9lka trv\u00e1n\u00ed, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e to, jak tento spole\u010dn\u00fd \u010das investujete. Tajemstv\u00edm \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed je v\u00eddat se m\u00e9n\u011b, ale hloub\u011bji.<\/p>\n

6 hodin spolu, ale ne jen tak ledajak<\/h2>\n

Dr. John Gottman<\/a> , kter\u00fd b\u011bhem sv\u00e9 kari\u00e9ry zkoumal l\u00e1sku ze v\u0161ech \u00fahl\u016f pohledu a p\u00e1ry si zvolil za sv\u016fj hlavn\u00ed p\u0159edm\u011bt studia, ur\u010dil ide\u00e1ln\u00ed mno\u017estv\u00ed \u010dasu, kter\u00fd je t\u0159eba tr\u00e1vit spole\u010dn\u011b. Aby p\u00e1r vydr\u017eel a udr\u017eel si jiskru po cel\u00e1 l\u00e9ta, m\u011bl by spolu tr\u00e1vit \u0161est hodin t\u00fddn\u011b. Existuje v\u0161ak um\u011bn\u00ed, jak tento sd\u00edlen\u00fd \u010das naplnit. Nejde jen o to, b\u00fdt bok po boku a mazlit se<\/a> z opa\u010dn\u00fdch konc\u016f postele.<\/p>\n

Jak navrhuje odbornice na vztahy, tento \u010das by m\u011bl b\u00fdt v pr\u016fb\u011bhu t\u00fddne moud\u0159e rozvr\u017een tak, aby se ka\u017ed\u00fd prost\u00fd okam\u017eik stal aktem intimity. Tak\u017ee m\u00edsto toho, abyste r\u00e1no vysko\u010dili z postele a p\u0159ehodili si p\u0159es obli\u010dej pe\u0159inu, vyu\u017eijte p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitosti k op\u011btovn\u00e9mu potvrzen\u00ed sv\u00e9 l\u00e1sky, ani\u017e byste z toho d\u011blali velkou v\u011bc. M\u00edsto abyste byli p\u0159ilepen\u00ed k telefonu a bombardovali se navz\u00e1jem nahr\u00e1vkami, znovu se spojte se sv\u00fdm partnerem improvizac\u00ed rychl\u00e9 mas\u00e1\u017ee nebo z\u00e1plavou polibk\u016f. Odbornice klade d\u016fraz na kvalitu t\u011bchto okam\u017eik\u016f. Tyto \u201e znovu rozn\u00edcen\u00e9<\/a> \u201c sloty p\u016fsob\u00ed jako romantick\u00e9 mezihry v harmonogramu dom\u00e1c\u00edch prac\u00ed<\/a> .<\/p>\n

Kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00e9 momenty r\u00e1no (10 minut t\u00fddn\u011b)<\/h2>\n

R\u00e1na jsou obvykle shon. V\u0161echno se d\u011bje z\u00e1vratnou rychlost\u00ed. Sn\u00edd\u00e1me, zat\u00edmco se obl\u00e9k\u00e1me, abychom u\u0161et\u0159ili \u010das, a pak prob\u011bhneme dve\u0159mi s vol\u00e1n\u00edmi: \u201eUvid\u00edme se dnes ve\u010der!\u201c<\/em> Partnerovi sotva v\u011bnujeme pozornost. P\u0159esto, i kdy\u017e nem\u00e1me n\u00e1ladu na rozhovor, m\u016f\u017eeme se ho zeptat, jak se c\u00edtil po probuzen\u00ed<\/a> a jak\u00e9 m\u00e1 pl\u00e1ny na den. \u201eProjeven\u00ed z\u00e1jmu o druhou osobu, by\u0165 jen kr\u00e1tk\u00fd, je cenn\u00fdm projevem pozornosti,\u201c<\/em> vysv\u011btluje psycholo\u017eka.<\/p>\n

Denn\u00ed setk\u00e1n\u00ed (1 hodina 40 minut t\u00fddn\u011b nebo 20 minut denn\u011b)<\/h2>\n

Kdy\u017e se po dlouh\u00e9m dni vr\u00e1t\u00edme dom\u016f, zam\u00ed\u0159\u00edme rovnou na pohovku a nemysl\u00edme na nic jin\u00e9ho ne\u017e na relaxaci. D\u00e1v\u00e1me p\u0159ednost teplu na\u0161\u00ed deky p\u0159ed teplem na\u0161eho partnera. Na\u0161\u00edm prvn\u00edm instinktem by v\u0161ak m\u011blo b\u00fdt se na\u0161\u00ed sp\u0159\u00edzn\u011bnou du\u0161\u00ed na \u0161est sekund p\u0159itulit a pol\u00edbit (nen\u00ed pot\u0159eba \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd \u010dasova\u010d), pak se zamyslet nad sv\u00fdm dnem a vyhnout se jak\u00fdmkoli st\u00ed\u017enostem. Tyto okam\u017eiky spojen\u00ed pom\u00e1haj\u00ed obnovit pouto po dni str\u00e1ven\u00e9m od sebe.<\/p>\n

Smyslupln\u00fd dialog (35 minut t\u00fddn\u011b)<\/h2>\n

Jsme lep\u0161\u00ed v kritice ne\u017e v romantick\u00fdch prohl\u00e1\u0161en\u00edch. P\u0159ipom\u00edn\u00e1me partnerovi, \u017ee nevynesl odpadky nebo \u017ee zapomn\u011bl pov\u011bsit pr\u00e1dlo, ale jen z\u0159\u00eddka lichot\u00edme jeho egu. P\u0159esto nen\u00ed t\u0159eba \u010dekat na Valent\u00fdna, abychom partnerovi pod\u011bkovali<\/a> za to, \u017ee tu byl, a zahrnuli ho kv\u011btinami. Nen\u00ed t\u0159eba se pou\u0161t\u011bt do shakespearovsk\u00fdch monolog\u016f nebo znovu p\u0159ehr\u00e1vat sc\u00e9nu z \u201eNotting Hillu\u201c. M\u016f\u017eeme jednodu\u0161e \u0159\u00edct : \u201eJsem na tebe hrd\u00fd\u201c<\/em> nebo \u201eKa\u017ed\u00fd den pro m\u011b tolik znamen\u00e1\u0161.\u201c<\/em> Je to obzvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b obohacuj\u00edc\u00ed (a plat\u00ed to ob\u011bma sm\u011bry). Laskavost je naka\u017eliv\u00e1.<\/p>\n

L\u00e1skypln\u00e1 gesta (35 minut t\u00fddn\u011b)<\/h2>\n

Je samoz\u0159ejm\u00e9, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd p\u00e1r m\u00e1 sv\u016fj vlastn\u00ed jazyk l\u00e1sky. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed vn\u00edmaj\u00ed d\u011btsk\u00e9 h\u00e1dky jako tich\u00e9 \u201eMiluji t\u011b\u201c, zat\u00edmco jin\u00ed d\u00e1vaj\u00ed p\u0159ednost citlivosti up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fdch rozhovor\u016f nebo v\u0159elosti fyzick\u00e9ho doteku. C\u00edlem je sbl\u00ed\u017eit se citov\u011b, obnovit spojen\u00ed mezi mysl\u00ed. Proto si denn\u011b dop\u0159ejeme 5 minut n\u011bhy.<\/p>\n

Romantick\u00fd ve\u010der (2 hodiny t\u00fddn\u011b)<\/h2>\n

A nemluv\u00edme o ve\u010derech, kdy v\u0161ichni telefonuj\u00ed nebo jsou pohlceni televiz\u00ed. A\u0165 u\u017e je to ve\u010de\u0159e doma p\u0159ipraven\u00e1 spole\u010dn\u011b, hran\u00ed deskov\u00fdch her, proch\u00e1zka v m\u011bs\u00ed\u010dn\u00edm sv\u011btle nebo odpo\u010dinek v l\u00e1zn\u00edch, prost\u011b se pot\u0159ebujeme sej\u00edt, pry\u010d od rutiny \u201e doj\u00ed\u017ed\u011bn\u00ed, pr\u00e1ce, sp\u00e1nek<\/a> \u201c.<\/p>\n

Zhodno\u0165te sv\u016fj milostn\u00fd \u017eivot (1 hodina t\u00fddn\u011b)<\/h2>\n

N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed psychologov\u00e9 doporu\u010duj\u00ed po\u0159\u00e1dat \u201eh\u00e1dkov\u00e9 ve\u010dery\u201c, aby se p\u0159ede\u0161lo efektu \u201etlakov\u00e9ho hrnce\u201c a zabr\u00e1nilo se explozi emoc\u00ed. Nen\u00ed v\u0161ak t\u0159eba b\u00fdt tak \u201eradik\u00e1ln\u00ed\u201c. M\u016f\u017eete si tak\u00e9 sednout ke stolu s n\u011bjak\u00fdm ob\u010derstven\u00edm (pro zvednut\u00ed n\u00e1lady) a brainstormovat o sv\u00e9m milostn\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b. Pro\u010d si nevytvo\u0159it \u201en\u00e1dobu na emoce\u201c? St\u0159\u00eddejte se v kreslen\u00ed z \u00fatr\u017eku pap\u00edru a diskutujte o sv\u00fdch pocitech. Je to rozhodn\u011b p\u0159\u00edjemn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e m\u00edt ve\u0159ejnou h\u00e1dku v ob\u00fdvac\u00edm pokoji a vystavovat jej\u00edmu zvuku cel\u00e9 sousedstv\u00ed.<\/p>\n

T\u00edm, \u017ee si s partnerem napl\u00e1nujeme \u0161est hodin kvalitn\u00edho \u010dasu, vr\u00e1t\u00edme vztah zp\u011bt do pop\u0159ed\u00ed na\u0161ich priorit, ani\u017e bychom se navz\u00e1jem dusili. To pom\u00e1h\u00e1 obnovit harmonii v domov\u011b a posilovat na\u0161i l\u00e1sku ka\u017ed\u00fd den.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Existuj\u00ed p\u00e1ry, kter\u00e9 d\u011blaj\u00ed v\u0161echno spole\u010dn\u011b a \u017eij\u00ed jako siamsk\u00e1 dvoj\u010data, a pak jsou tu dal\u0161\u00ed, kter\u00e9 se...","protected":false},"author":8340,"featured_media":434982,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5717],"tags":[97833,97333,97372],"class_list":["post-434980","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-vie-amoureuse","tag-actu","tag-couple","tag-relation"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/temps-a-passer-ensemble-couple-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/temps-a-passer-ensemble-couple-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/temps-a-passer-ensemble-couple.jpg","author":{"name":"\u00c9milie Laurent","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/cropped-2f5d8c00d5d5c27f8ce4d9b3f9015467-96x96.png"},"categories":[{"term_id":5717,"name":"L\u00e1ska a vztahy","slug":"vie-amoureuse","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":5885,"taxonomy":"category","description":"

Rubrika L\u00e1ska a vztahy v magaz\u00ednu The Body Optimist rozeb\u00edr\u00e1 vztahy ve v\u0161ech podob\u00e1ch: seznamov\u00e1n\u00ed, sv\u00e1d\u011bn\u00ed, spole\u010dn\u00fd \u017eivot, \u017e\u00e1rlivost, rozchody i \u017eivot bez partnera. Rady terapeut\u016f, psychologick\u00e9 souvislosti a osobn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bhy tu pom\u00e1haj\u00ed budovat zdrav\u00e9 a vyv\u00e1\u017een\u00e9 vztahy, bez tlaku na \u017eivot v p\u00e1ru a bez jedin\u00e9ho spr\u00e1vn\u00e9ho modelu.<\/p>\n

Co najde\u0161 v rubrice L\u00e1ska a vztahy<\/h2>\n