{"id":439700,"date":"2026-04-22T08:00:43","date_gmt":"2026-04-22T06:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=439700"},"modified":"2026-04-21T22:00:06","modified_gmt":"2026-04-21T20:00:06","slug":"peut-on-aimer-pleinement-quelquun-sans-saimer-soi-meme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/cs\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/muze-clovek-plne-milovat-nekoho-aniz-by-miloval-sam-sebe-439700","title":{"rendered":"M\u016f\u017ee \u010dlov\u011bk pln\u011b milovat n\u011bkoho, ani\u017e by miloval s\u00e1m sebe?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tato ot\u00e1zka by st\u00e1la za filozofick\u00fd esej, a p\u0159esto je to dobr\u00fd test vlastn\u00edch cit\u016f. Ne\u017e vyzn\u00e1te l\u00e1sku n\u011bkomu, koho sotva zn\u00e1te, nau\u010dte se \u0159\u00edkat si p\u0159ed zrcadlem \u201eMiluji t\u011b\u201c a v\u011b\u0159te tomu. Podle v\u011bdy je tento soucit se sebou sam\u00fdm pro zdravou l\u00e1sku nezbytn\u00fd. Ne\u010dekejte tedy poh\u00e1dkov\u00fd rom\u00e1nek, pokud nejste schopni sami sebe pochv\u00e1lit.<\/p>\n

Je sebel\u00e1ska p\u0159edpokladem pro zah\u00e1jen\u00ed rom\u00e1nku?<\/h2>\n

\u201eNe\u017e bude\u0161 moci milovat ostatn\u00ed, mus\u00ed\u0161 nejd\u0159\u00edve milovat s\u00e1m sebe.\u201c Tato t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 existencion\u00e1ln\u00ed fr\u00e1ze, kter\u00e1 jako by vypadla p\u0159\u00edmo z u\u010debnice literatury, romantick\u00e9 komedie nebo buddhistick\u00e9ho chr\u00e1mu, nen\u00ed tak trivi\u00e1ln\u00ed, jak se zd\u00e1. Je to rada nabit\u00e1 moudrost\u00ed, kter\u00e1 klidn\u011b mohla poch\u00e1zet z ordinace psychologa. Proto\u017ee milovat n\u011bkoho, ani\u017e bys miloval s\u00e1m sebe, je v kone\u010dn\u00e9m d\u016fsledku trochu jako sko\u010dit do vody, ani\u017e bys um\u011bl plavat, nebo jezdit na kole bez kole\u010dek.<\/p>\n

Je z\u0159ejm\u00e9, \u017ee se nem\u016f\u017eete st\u00e1t posedl\u00ed sami sebou jako Narcis nebo se neust\u00e1le zahrnovat komplimenty. Jinak riskujete, \u017ee budete p\u016fsobit egocentricky a \u00fazkoprse. Na druhou stranu sebev\u011bdom\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u00e1m na profilech na Tinderu nebo na rande \u010dasto chyb\u00ed, je nezbytn\u00e9 pro pro\u017eit\u00ed skute\u010dn\u011b smyslupln\u00e9 l\u00e1sky.<\/p>\n

Toto zd\u016fraz\u0148uje studie<\/a> z roku 2016, publikovan\u00e1 v \u010dasopise Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Sebe\u00facta nen\u00ed bonus nav\u00edc; je z\u00e1rukou trval\u00e9ho, z\u00e1\u0159iv\u00e9ho a zdrav\u00e9ho vztahu. \u201eVysok\u00e9 sebev\u011bdom\u00ed p\u0159edpov\u00edd\u00e1 za\u010d\u00e1tek vztahu, zat\u00edmco n\u00edzk\u00e9 sebev\u011bdom\u00ed p\u0159edpov\u00edd\u00e1 jeho rozpad. Tyto v\u00fdsledky ukazuj\u00ed, \u017ee sebev\u011bdom\u00ed ovliv\u0148uje v\u00fdskyt v\u00fdznamn\u00fdch zm\u011bn ve vztaz\u00edch a \u017ee naopak pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed t\u011bchto zm\u011bn ovliv\u0148uje n\u00e1sledn\u00fd v\u00fdvoj sebev\u011bdom\u00ed,\u201c uv\u00e1d\u00ed se ve zpr\u00e1v\u011b.<\/p>\n

Sebe\u00facta, kl\u00ed\u010d k napl\u0148uj\u00edc\u00edmu rom\u00e1nku<\/h2>\n

Sebe\u00facta, z\u00edskan\u00e1 v d\u011btstv\u00ed, ale ztracen\u00e1 v pr\u016fb\u011bhu \u010dasu kv\u016fli posm\u011bchu, srovn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed nebo nevhodn\u00fdm pozn\u00e1mk\u00e1m, se t\u011b\u017eko udr\u017euje. Tato sebe\u00facta, kter\u00e1 se v extr\u00e9mech st\u00e1v\u00e1 varovn\u00fdm sign\u00e1lem<\/a> nebo dokonce b\u011b\u017en\u00fdm rysem narcistick\u00fdch \u00fachyl\u016f, je ochranou v nep\u0159\u00edzni osudu, \u0161t\u00edtem proti nejistot\u011b. Psycholo\u017eka Elisabeth De Madre<\/a> ji popisuje jako \u201evnit\u0159n\u00ed bezpe\u010d\u00ed\u201c. Je to v\u00e1\u0161 emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed n\u00e1razn\u00edk, v\u00e1\u0161 vestav\u011bn\u00fd airbag.<\/p>\n

Studie<\/a> publikovan\u00e1 v \u010dasopise Nature tento n\u00e1zor tak\u00e9 podporuje. Sebe\u00facta je z\u00e1kladem vztahu, pojivem, kter\u00e9 dr\u017e\u00ed p\u00e1r pohromad\u011b. Bez n\u00ed p\u00e1r riskuje nestabiln\u00ed situaci, nedostatek stability a v p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b konfliktu se ocitne zcela bez pov\u0161imnut\u00ed. Pokud m\u00e1te dobr\u00e9 sebev\u011bdom\u00ed, ji\u017e v\u00edte, jak b\u00fdt sob\u011bsta\u010dn\u00ed, a jste t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 zcela imunn\u00ed v\u016f\u010di emo\u010dn\u00ed z\u00e1vislosti. \u201eDobr\u00e1 znalost sebe sama v\u00e1m umo\u017en\u00ed vyhnout se podce\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u00fdch pot\u0159eb a p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm je vyjad\u0159ovat s naprost\u00fdm klidem,\u201c dod\u00e1v\u00e1 psycholog.<\/p>\n

Pr\u00e1ce na sv\u00e9m sebev\u011bdom\u00ed stoj\u00ed za to \u00fasil\u00ed.<\/h2>\n

Dobr\u00e9 sebev\u011bdom\u00ed nen\u00ed u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e9 jen pro to, abyste si v pr\u00e1ci bez kokt\u00e1n\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dali o pov\u00fd\u0161en\u00ed, nebo abyste mluvili na ve\u0159ejnosti, ani\u017e byste se zrudli. Je to tak\u00e9 v\u00fdhoda v l\u00e1sce, za p\u0159edpokladu, \u017ee toto sebev\u011bdom\u00ed nep\u0159ehnan\u00e9. Tak\u017ee m\u00edsto zdokonalov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u00e9 v\u00fd\u0159e\u010dnosti, zdokonalov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u00fdch \u0159e\u010dnick\u00fdch dovednost\u00ed po boku Hugha Granta a Julie Robertsov\u00e9 a le\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed sv\u00e9 \u00fastn\u00ed prezentace jako \u0161koln\u00ed refer\u00e1t za\u010dn\u011bte t\u00edm, \u017ee se znovu postav\u00edte do st\u0159edu sv\u00fdch priorit.<\/p>\n

Ne\u017e po\u0161lete v\u00e1\u0161niv\u00e9 zpr\u00e1vy ciz\u00edmu \u010dlov\u011bku a budete dov\u00e1d\u011bt v m\u00edstn\u00edm parku, napl\u00e1nujte si klidn\u00fd \u010das pro sebe, uva\u0159te lasagne jen pro sebe, nalepte si na samolepic\u00ed pap\u00edrky blahop\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed k sob\u011b. P\u0159\u00edprava sn\u00eddan\u011b v posteli, kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 prost\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed stolu k ve\u010de\u0159i, \u0159\u00edk\u00e1n\u00ed \u201eMiluji t\u011b\u201c... V\u0161echny tyto \u010diny, \u010dasto ur\u010den\u00e9 pro n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho, se pak stanou ritu\u00e1ly sebel\u00e1sky.<\/p>\n

M\u016f\u017eeme skute\u010dn\u011b milovat, ani\u017e bychom milovali sami sebe? Z\u00e1sadn\u00ed rozd\u00edl<\/h2>\n

\u0158\u00edct, \u017ee je nemo\u017en\u00e9 milovat n\u011bkoho, ani\u017e byste milovali sami sebe, by bylo trochu p\u0159ehnan\u00e9. Ve skute\u010dnosti se mnoho lid\u00ed zamiluje, i kdy\u017e o sob\u011b pochybuj\u00ed, podce\u0148uj\u00ed se nebo st\u00e1le hledaj\u00ed svou vnit\u0159n\u00ed rovnov\u00e1hu. L\u00e1ska m\u016f\u017ee existovat i na k\u0159ehk\u00e9 p\u016fd\u011b.<\/p>\n

Ale mo\u017en\u00e1 skute\u010dn\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka nezn\u00ed: \u201eM\u016f\u017eeme milovat?\u201c, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e: \u201eJak milovat za t\u011bchto podm\u00ednek?\u201c. Bez sebe\u00facty l\u00e1ska \u010dasto nab\u00fdv\u00e1 nestabiln\u011bj\u0161\u00edch podob: strach z toho, \u017ee nejsme dost dob\u0159\u00ed, neust\u00e1l\u00e1 pot\u0159eba uji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed, pot\u00ed\u017ee s nastaven\u00edm hranic. Milujeme, ano, ale s nap\u011bt\u00edm v pozad\u00ed, jako by se v\u0161echno mohlo ka\u017edou chv\u00edli zhroutit.<\/p>\n

Naopak, dostate\u010dn\u00e1 sebel\u00e1ska nezaru\u010duje dokonal\u00fd vztah, ale z\u00e1sadn\u011b m\u011bn\u00ed v\u00e1\u0161 p\u0159\u00edstup k n\u011bmu. U\u017e nehled\u00e1te n\u011bkoho, kdo by zaplnil pr\u00e1zdnotu, ale s k\u00fdm sd\u00edl\u00edte prostor, kter\u00fd je ji\u017e obydlen\u00fd. Ne\u017eebr\u00e1te o l\u00e1sku, ale p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1te ji.<\/p>\n

Sebel\u00e1ska v kone\u010dn\u00e9m d\u016fsledku nen\u00ed p\u0159edpokladem pro vztah, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e kompasem. Vede, vyva\u017euje a poskytuje bezpe\u010d\u00ed. P\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm n\u00e1m umo\u017e\u0148uje rozli\u0161ovat mezi l\u00e1skou, kter\u00e1 uklid\u0148uje\u2026 a l\u00e1skou, kter\u00e1 pohlcuje.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Tato ot\u00e1zka by st\u00e1la za filozofick\u00fd esej, a p\u0159esto je to dobr\u00fd test vlastn\u00edch cit\u016f. Ne\u017e vyzn\u00e1te l\u00e1sku...","protected":false},"author":8340,"featured_media":439701,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5717],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-439700","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-vie-amoureuse"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/estime-de-soi-couple-important-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/estime-de-soi-couple-important-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/estime-de-soi-couple-important.jpg","author":{"name":"\u00c9milie Laurent","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/cropped-2f5d8c00d5d5c27f8ce4d9b3f9015467-96x96.png"},"categories":[{"term_id":5717,"name":"L\u00e1ska a vztahy","slug":"vie-amoureuse","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":5885,"taxonomy":"category","description":"

Rubrika L\u00e1ska a vztahy v magaz\u00ednu The Body Optimist rozeb\u00edr\u00e1 vztahy ve v\u0161ech podob\u00e1ch: seznamov\u00e1n\u00ed, sv\u00e1d\u011bn\u00ed, spole\u010dn\u00fd \u017eivot, \u017e\u00e1rlivost, rozchody i \u017eivot bez partnera. Rady terapeut\u016f, psychologick\u00e9 souvislosti a osobn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bhy tu pom\u00e1haj\u00ed budovat zdrav\u00e9 a vyv\u00e1\u017een\u00e9 vztahy, bez tlaku na \u017eivot v p\u00e1ru a bez jedin\u00e9ho spr\u00e1vn\u00e9ho modelu.<\/p>\n

Co najde\u0161 v rubrice L\u00e1ska a vztahy<\/h2>\n