{"id":429370,"date":"2025-12-08T11:37:29","date_gmt":"2025-12-08T10:37:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=429370"},"modified":"2025-12-08T11:37:29","modified_gmt":"2025-12-08T10:37:29","slug":"voici-pourquoi-jadore-etre-celibataire-avoir-38-ans-joli-message-confiance-en-soi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/heres-why-i-love-being-single-at-38-a-lovely-message-of-self-confidence-429370","title":{"rendered":"&quot;This is why I love being single and 38&quot;: a lovely message about self-confidence"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In a video that went viral, content creator Fanny van Essche (@fancey_lifestyle) shares her experience of being single at 38. In a few heartfelt sentences, she overturns stereotypes and offers a vibrant perspective on emotional autonomy, maturity, and personal freedom. Her message proves that there are countless ways to achieve fulfillment, and that being single can be a fertile ground where you finally choose yourself.<\/p>\n<h2> A woman who has learned, over the years, to choose herself<\/h2>\n<p> Being single at 38, according to Fanny, is nothing like a limbo or a temporary status to be endured while waiting for something better. On the contrary, it&#39;s a state to be cultivated, lived intensely, and that allows for a newfound understanding of oneself. In her video, she explains that over the years, she has developed a precious certainty: she now knows that she has always chosen herself. Whatever the circumstances, she has always respected herself, set boundaries, and listened to her needs.<\/p>\n<p>This quiet yet unwavering confidence now acts as an anchor. She feels capable of facing each challenge, even the most difficult, without losing sight of who she is. With hindsight, she sees trials less as threats and more as moments of transformation. Each difficulty becomes an opportunity to grow, to strengthen her character, to refine her desires. A serene maturity, devoid of arrogance, allows her to look to the future with rare tranquility. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DP8Z2J-iIP4\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\"> View this post on Instagram <\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"> <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DP8Z2J-iIP4\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by Fanny van Essche (@fancey_lifestyle)<\/a> <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> A more peaceful relationship with the body<\/h2>\n<p> Among the most striking revelations in her video, her relationship with her body holds a prominent place. She explains that she knows her body, its reactions, its needs. She has stopped demanding that it conform to an unattainable ideal. What she now seeks is harmony, not perfection. This tender and insightful perspective is profoundly body-positive. It values self-knowledge, gentleness, and acceptance.<\/p>\n<p>And above all, it allowed her to transform her relationship with love. She&#39;s no longer afraid that a love story will end, because she no longer measures her worth through the eyes of a partner. This healthy detachment has nothing to do with indifference: it&#39;s more about a new emotional freedom, the conviction that she can love without losing herself. Being single then ceases to be a void and becomes a space where she can breathe fully.<\/p>\n<h2> A fresh perspective on the little joys of life<\/h2>\n<p> Fanny van Essche (@fancey_lifestyle) also talks about how much she now savors simple moments. Everyday pleasures, gentle rituals, fleeting and silent instants now take on a special hue. She enjoys every nuance, without trying to compare her life to a standard or make it spectacular.<\/p>\n<p>She also emphasizes the strength of her circle of friends. These are supportive, caring, and funny women whose loyalty and positive energy create a precious emotional foundation. These carefully chosen, solid, and sincere relationships are essential to her well-being. They prove that love isn&#39;t limited to romantic partnerships: it also flows through deep friendships, lasting bonds of complicity, and carefully cultivated connections.<\/p>\n<h2> Total freedom to build one&#39;s life<\/h2>\n<p> What Fanny cherishes most is ultimately her freedom. The freedom to decide, to explore, to imagine her life without unnecessary compromises. Single life becomes a space for expression where her projects, ambitions, and desires can flourish without constraint. Contrary to stereotypes, she has no fear of remaining single. She believes in love, but a love that doesn&#39;t fill a void. A love that is chosen, experienced without urgency, welcomed at the right moment. This vision is soothing, and above all, inspiring. It shows that it&#39;s possible to believe in love without rushing, without seeking a savior or external validation.<\/p>\n<h2> A message that celebrates emotional autonomy<\/h2>\n<p> Fanny van Essche&#39;s video reminds us that at 38, being single can be a vibrant, mature, and joyful choice. She proves that self-love isn&#39;t a default option, but a solid foundation upon which everything can be built.<\/p>\n<p>Ultimately, Fanny&#39;s story is an ode to inner freedom, confidence, and a quiet, undeniable maturity. It encourages everyone to follow their own pace, respect their needs, and celebrate their bodies and emotions. Being single at 38 is far from a passing phase: it can be a luminous space where we rediscover ourselves and grow stronger. It&#39;s an inspiring message that resonates powerfully in a society that loves to dictate norms, reminding us that there are countless paths to fulfillment.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"In a video that went viral, content creator Fanny van Essche (@fancey_lifestyle) shares her experience of being single...","protected":false},"author":8375,"featured_media":429371,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1784],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-429370","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-confiance-en-soi"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/@fancey_lifestyle-_-Instagram-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/@fancey_lifestyle-_-Instagram-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/@fancey_lifestyle-_-Instagram.jpg","author":{"name":"Fabienne Baure","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/fabienne_baure-96x96.jpg"},"categories":[{"term_id":1784,"name":"Self-confidence","slug":"confiance-en-soi","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":1890,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<p>The Self-confidence section of The Body Optimist helps you build self-esteem day by day, whatever your body, age or background. Practical exercises, clear explanations of patterns like imposter syndrome and stories from people who learned to speak up: everything you need to move forward without waiting to \u201cearn\u201d the right to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Self-confidence section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Exercises<\/strong>: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/small-challenges-believe-more-in-your-abilities-446961\">small challenges that help you believe in your abilities<\/a> and habits to keep that confidence going over time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Patterns to outsmart<\/strong>: imposter syndrome, feelings of inferiority, the urge to apologize constantly, trouble saying no.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Emotions<\/strong>: high sensitivity, intense feelings, negative thoughts and an inner critic that\u2019s far too harsh.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Other people\u2019s eyes<\/strong>: handling comments about your weight, braving the pool or group photos, quitting the comparison game.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Personal stories<\/strong>: women and men who regained their confidence after harassment, illness or disability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How can you build self-confidence day to day?<\/h2>\n<p>Self-confidence grows mostly through action: every small win is concrete proof of what you can do, far more convincing than a positive affirmation repeated in the mirror. A few strategies psychologists often recommend:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set modest but regular challenges, then write down what you accomplished.<\/li>\n<li>Notice your inner critic and ask yourself whether you\u2019d ever talk to a friend that way.<\/li>\n<li>Swap automatic apologies for thanks (\u201cthanks for your patience\u201d instead of \u201csorry I\u2019m late\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Accept a compliment with a simple thank-you, without downplaying it.<\/li>\n<li>Limit comparisons, especially on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Our approach to self-confidence<\/h2>\n<p>Here, self-confidence isn\u2019t reserved for people who are thin, young or \u201cperfect\u201d: it doesn\u2019t have to wait for weight loss or for some supposed flaw to be fixed. Our articles favor concrete tools over promises of overnight transformation, and remind you that low self-esteem isn\u2019t a personal failure. When distress sets in (anxiety, dark thoughts, isolation), a psychologist or therapist can support you: our content is here to inform, not to replace professional care.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/imposter-syndrome-an-invisible-mechanism-undermining-confidence-434010\">Imposter syndrome explained<\/a>: understanding the mechanism that makes you doubt your own achievements.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/saying-yes-to-please-others-a-psychologist-explains-why-you-cant-set-boundaries-429884\">Why you struggle to set boundaries<\/a>: a psychologist decodes the habit of saying yes just to please.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/youre-making-too-many-excuses-heres-what-it-could-reveal-431077\">Apologizing too much<\/a>: what this reflex may reveal, and how to assert yourself without aggression.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/believing-oneself-to-be-talentless-how-to-appease-that-critical-little-voice-436991\">Quieting your inner critic<\/a>: what to do when you\u2019re convinced you have no talent.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/harassed-by-comments-about-her-weight-she-explains-how-she-regained-her-confidence-445030\">Rebuilding confidence after weight comments<\/a>: one woman explains how she stopped letting other people\u2019s remarks define her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What\u2019s the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem?<\/h3>\n<p>Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself as a person; self-confidence is the belief that you can act and succeed in a given situation. You can feel competent at work while judging yourself harshly as a person. Both can be built, often together, through action and self-compassion.<\/p>\n<h3>What is imposter syndrome?<\/h3>\n<p>Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you don\u2019t deserve your success, along with the fear of being \u201cfound out.\u201d First described by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, who called it the impostor phenomenon, it isn\u2019t a mental illness but a common thought pattern, including among highly competent people. Listing your achievements objectively and talking about it helps defuse it.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you help a friend who lacks self-confidence?<\/h3>\n<p>Listen without minimizing what she feels, point out specific qualities rather than vague compliments, encourage her to try things without doing them for her, and avoid comparisons. If her distress lasts or gets worse, gently encourage her to talk to a mental health professional.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\">psychology topics<\/a>, learn to see your body differently with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\">Body positive<\/a>, explore family life in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\">Parenting<\/a>, and build healthier relationships in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\">Love life<\/a>.<\/p>","parent":6138,"count":380,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":1784,"category_count":380,"category_description":"<p>The Self-confidence section of The Body Optimist helps you build self-esteem day by day, whatever your body, age or background. Practical exercises, clear explanations of patterns like imposter syndrome and stories from people who learned to speak up: everything you need to move forward without waiting to \u201cearn\u201d the right to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Self-confidence section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Exercises<\/strong>: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/small-challenges-believe-more-in-your-abilities-446961\">small challenges that help you believe in your abilities<\/a> and habits to keep that confidence going over time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Patterns to outsmart<\/strong>: imposter syndrome, feelings of inferiority, the urge to apologize constantly, trouble saying no.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Emotions<\/strong>: high sensitivity, intense feelings, negative thoughts and an inner critic that\u2019s far too harsh.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Other people\u2019s eyes<\/strong>: handling comments about your weight, braving the pool or group photos, quitting the comparison game.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Personal stories<\/strong>: women and men who regained their confidence after harassment, illness or disability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How can you build self-confidence day to day?<\/h2>\n<p>Self-confidence grows mostly through action: every small win is concrete proof of what you can do, far more convincing than a positive affirmation repeated in the mirror. A few strategies psychologists often recommend:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set modest but regular challenges, then write down what you accomplished.<\/li>\n<li>Notice your inner critic and ask yourself whether you\u2019d ever talk to a friend that way.<\/li>\n<li>Swap automatic apologies for thanks (\u201cthanks for your patience\u201d instead of \u201csorry I\u2019m late\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Accept a compliment with a simple thank-you, without downplaying it.<\/li>\n<li>Limit comparisons, especially on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Our approach to self-confidence<\/h2>\n<p>Here, self-confidence isn\u2019t reserved for people who are thin, young or \u201cperfect\u201d: it doesn\u2019t have to wait for weight loss or for some supposed flaw to be fixed. Our articles favor concrete tools over promises of overnight transformation, and remind you that low self-esteem isn\u2019t a personal failure. 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You can feel competent at work while judging yourself harshly as a person. Both can be built, often together, through action and self-compassion.<\/p>\n<h3>What is imposter syndrome?<\/h3>\n<p>Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you don\u2019t deserve your success, along with the fear of being \u201cfound out.\u201d First described by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, who called it the impostor phenomenon, it isn\u2019t a mental illness but a common thought pattern, including among highly competent people. Listing your achievements objectively and talking about it helps defuse it.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you help a friend who lacks self-confidence?<\/h3>\n<p>Listen without minimizing what she feels, point out specific qualities rather than vague compliments, encourage her to try things without doing them for her, and avoid comparisons. 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