If you've just gotten married, you might fear that your marriage will end badly like your parents'. You're afraid of mimicking their mistakes and breaking the pact of love you just made. This scenario isn't impossible. However, psychologists offer reassurance: your parents' chaotic love life doesn't have that much influence on yours.<\/p>\n
During their early years, we almost envy children of divorced parents and only remember the advantages: they get twice as many presents at Christmas, they celebrate their birthdays twice, in short, they experience everything twice. However, those most directly affected cannot say the same. A divorce<\/a> , even when it is amicable and mutually agreed upon, always leaves its mark on those who witness it. Children suffer and endure the situation without being able to voice their opinions. Above all, once they reach adulthood, they try not to repeat what they experienced and to lead happy romantic lives.<\/p>\n They undergo therapy to get to the bottom of their love story and find out if they are predisposed to divorce. If you are one of those children who changed homes every other week and unwittingly played the role of marital mediator, you are certainly afraid that your marriage will fail. For a long time, psychologists believed that parents' past relationships could influence their children's current romances. However, this is more of a popular theory than an absolute truth.<\/p>\n For decades, everyone believed the adage that "children of divorced parents, failed marriages."<\/em> However, this turns out to be largely false. Certainly, these children may not have had the best role models or the healthiest foundations, but they are not all destined for emotional disaster. "A divorce is part of life; it's a break in attachment, it's difficult, it disrupts the child's reassuring daily routine, but if the parents' relationship continues in a positive way, then it's not traumatic for the child,"<\/em> explains psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Marie-France Hirigoyen on France Inter<\/a> radio.<\/p>\n Do children of divorced parents suffer the same fate as their parents, and must they cut short their promise of eternal life? Statistics suggest otherwise. According to an analysis<\/a> based on data from the General Social Survey, an American polling institute, the intergenerational transmission of divorce decreased by half between 1972 and 1996. This is a surprising finding given the rise in divorces since the 1970s.<\/p>\n Of course, these figures need to be qualified, since marriage<\/a> is no longer automatic and is no longer a primary consideration in couples' plans. While for older generations, marriage was almost a rite of passage, young people prefer cohabitation or the alternative of a civil partnership (PACS).<\/p>\n Children of divorced parents are not at greater risk, but they can sabotage their romance without realizing it. "They develop hypervigilance towards problems that could lead to this situation. They fear that it won't last. On a daily basis, this can be debilitating,"<\/em> explains G\u00e9rard Poussin, a clinical psychologist interviewed by 20 Minutes<\/a> .<\/p>\n Divorce is no longer seen as inevitable; it's almost commonplace. While for our ancestors divorce wasn't even an option, for young people it's now just another excuse to party. With the rise of " divorce parties<\/a> ," these post-breakup celebrations featuring "thank you, next"<\/em> layer cakes and "just divorced"<\/em> scarves, divorce has become nothing more than a simple formality.<\/p>\n In short, children of divorced parents no longer worry about their romantic future and see divorce as a solution rather than a defeat. Which is actually quite positive. The less you think about it, the less likely it is to happen (those with a purely rational mindset should beware).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"If you've just gotten married, you might fear that your marriage will end badly like your parents'. 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Advice from therapists, psychological insights and personal stories help you build healthy, balanced relationships, with no pressure to couple up and no one-size-fits-all model.<\/p>\n Getting over a breakup takes time, and the pain often feels like grief: sadness, anger, nostalgia and relief can take turns. A few steps help you through it: limit contact with your ex and the urge to check their social media, put away objects that stir up memories, lean on friends and family rather than isolating yourself, get back to your routines (sleep, meals, movement) and reinvest in activities that are yours alone. Writing down what you feel helps put your thoughts in order. If the sadness lasts for weeks and keeps you from functioning day to day, a therapist can help you move forward.<\/p>\n We don\u2019t see being in a couple as a goal to reach: single, exclusive, living together without marrying or in a decades-long relationship, every path deserves to be told without judgment. Our articles reject the idea that you need to change your body to be loved, and remind you that excessive jealousy and control are never proof of love. They speak to all couples, straight and LGBTQIA+, and offer guidance without claiming to replace couples therapy or psychological support.<\/p>\n A relationship becomes toxic when one partner controls, belittles or isolates the other: checking their phone, constant criticism, emotional blackmail, swinging between passionate declarations and coldness. \u201cNarcissist\u201d gets used loosely online, but narcissistic personality disorder is a clinical diagnosis: focus on behaviors rather than labels. If you\u2019re facing violence, contact a domestic violence hotline or your local emergency services.<\/p>\n Developed by American marriage counselor Gary Chapman, the five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. 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A few steps help you through it: limit contact with your ex and the urge to check their social media, put away objects that stir up memories, lean on friends and family rather than isolating yourself, get back to your routines (sleep, meals, movement) and reinvest in activities that are yours alone. Writing down what you feel helps put your thoughts in order. If the sadness lasts for weeks and keeps you from functioning day to day, a therapist can help you move forward.<\/p>\n We don\u2019t see being in a couple as a goal to reach: single, exclusive, living together without marrying or in a decades-long relationship, every path deserves to be told without judgment. Our articles reject the idea that you need to change your body to be loved, and remind you that excessive jealousy and control are never proof of love. 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Divorce is becoming increasingly accepted.<\/h2>\n
What you\u2019ll find in the Love life section<\/h2>\n
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How do you get over a breakup?<\/h2>\n
Our take on love<\/h2>\n
Where to start<\/h2>\n
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Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n
How can you tell if a relationship is toxic?<\/h3>\n
What are the five love languages?<\/h3>\n
How can you meet someone without dating apps?<\/h3>\n
What you\u2019ll find in the Love life section<\/h2>\n
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How do you get over a breakup?<\/h2>\n
Our take on love<\/h2>\n
Where to start<\/h2>\n
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Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n
How can you tell if a relationship is toxic?<\/h3>\n
What are the five love languages?<\/h3>\n
How can you meet someone without dating apps?<\/h3>\n