{"id":431274,"date":"2025-12-26T15:20:24","date_gmt":"2025-12-26T14:20:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=431274"},"modified":"2025-12-26T15:20:24","modified_gmt":"2025-12-26T14:20:24","slug":"femme-raconte-harcelement-misogyne-subit-quotidien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/woman-recounts-daily-misogynistic-harassment-she-endures-431274","title":{"rendered":"This woman recounts the misogynistic harassment she endures on a daily basis."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>On TikTok, a content creator known as Jessie (@jessie.song) recently shared a poignant testimony from a Chinese woman describing the harassment and sexism she experiences daily. In a few powerful sentences, this account highlights the silent mechanics of everyday sexism, which relies not only on words, but also on silences.<\/p>\n<h2> A chilling observation about male reactions<\/h2>\n<p> In her testimony, Jessie (@jessie.song) explains that, in her experience, out of 10 men present when a misogynistic joke is told:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li> 1. The fact,<\/li>\n<li> Two of them laugh about it.<\/li>\n<li> Three don&#39;t find it funny, but laugh anyway so as not to feel excluded.<\/li>\n<li> Four of them remain silent and act as if they hadn&#39;t heard anything.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <em>&quot;Not a single one defends me, not one tries to stop him,&quot;<\/em> she summarizes. From this observation, Jessie (@jessie.song) draws a bitter conclusion: even those who don&#39;t openly participate in these behaviors unwittingly contribute to maintaining a hostile environment for women.<\/p>\n<h2> &quot;Being on the right side&quot; is not enough<\/h2>\n<p> Jessie (@jessie.song) explains that, from a male perspective, many think they&#39;re &quot;on the right side&quot; simply because they don&#39;t laugh or make sexist remarks themselves. From her perspective\u2014and that of many women\u2014there&#39;s no real difference between the person making the joke and those who let it slide without reacting. Together, laughter, averted glances, and silence make up the same system: one that normalizes contempt for women. <em>&quot;Men, consciously or unconsciously, protect the system that&#39;s against us. So when women say &#39;all men are the same,&#39; that&#39;s what they mean,&quot;<\/em> she asserts. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" style=\"max-width: 605px; min-width: 325px;\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@jessie.song\/video\/7587434864710831390\" data-video-id=\"7587434864710831390\">\n<section> <a title=\"@jessie.song\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@jessie.song?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@jessie.song<\/a> Not all men but their silence has co-created the environment <a title=\"\u266c Original sound - Jessie\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7587434784561957663?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound - Jessie<\/a><\/section>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> Strong reactions in the comments<\/h2>\n<p> Under Jessie&#39;s (@jessie.song) video, men expressed their realization: <em>&quot;Honestly, as a guy, this has given me a whole new perspective. I used to think that by not laughing, I wasn&#39;t supporting that kind of joke, but now I understand that it&#39;s the same as doing nothing.&quot;<\/em> Another commented: <em>&quot;And if a man speaks up to defend a woman, all the others will call him a duck.&quot;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Jessie&#39;s (@jessie.song) testimony resonated with thousands of internet users. It reveals how silent complicity\u2014even unintentional\u2014can reinforce pervasive sexism. For many, Jessie&#39;s video acted as a wake-up call: it served as a reminder that fighting sexism isn&#39;t just about not participating, but about daring to stand up against it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"On TikTok, a content creator known as Jessie (@jessie.song) recently shared a poignant testimony from a Chinese woman...","protected":false},"author":8394,"featured_media":431275,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[72943],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-431274","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-feminisme"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Cette-femme-raconte-le-harcelement-misogyne-quelle-subit-au-quotidien-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Cette-femme-raconte-le-harcelement-misogyne-quelle-subit-au-quotidien-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Cette-femme-raconte-le-harcelement-misogyne-quelle-subit-au-quotidien.jpg","author":{"name":"L\u00e9a Michel","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/1721220128171-96x96.jpg"},"categories":[{"term_id":72943,"name":"Feminism","slug":"feminisme","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":73115,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<p>The Feminism section of The Body Optimist covers gender equality in everyday life: everyday sexism, violence against women, work, the domestic load, rights and representation. Its explainers, first-person stories and practical advice are for anyone who wants to understand inequality and act against it, with special attention to the pressures placed on women\u2019s bodies.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Feminism section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Everyday sexism<\/strong>: remarks, jokes and expressions that normalize inequality, like the familiar <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/you-scare-men-a-remark-often-made-to-women-sparks-debate-439175\">\u201cyou scare men\u201d comment<\/a> so many women hear.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Violence and harassment<\/strong>: street and online harassment, consent, intimate partner violence and tools to help recognize abuse early.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Work and money<\/strong>: pay gaps, entrepreneurship, the division of household labor and the extra expenses that inequality places on women.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bodies and expectations<\/strong>: body hair, clothing, age and appearance, and the debates over women\u2019s freedom to decide about their own bodies and image.<\/li>\n<li><strong>History and symbols<\/strong>: pioneers, inventors and rallying symbols that tell the story of feminist movements.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Women\u2019s rights around the world<\/strong>: access to education, sports and public space, and the fights being waged from Afghanistan to Ethiopia, like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/afghan-private-schools-defy-the-ban-on-teaching-431358\">Afghan girls defying the ban on schooling<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you respond to everyday sexism?<\/h2>\n<p>Responding to everyday sexism starts with naming what was just said, without justifying yourself or apologizing. A few strategies that work:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Ask a neutral question (\u201cCan you explain what you mean?\u201d): having to spell out a remark is often enough to defuse it.<\/li>\n<li>Describe the facts instead of judging the person (\u201cThat joke reduces women to their looks\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Assess your safety: you are never obligated to respond on the spot.<\/li>\n<li>At work, write down dates, words and witnesses: in many countries, sexual harassment and sex discrimination in the workplace are against the law.<\/li>\n<li>As a bystander, support the person being targeted rather than letting silence validate the remark.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For situations at the office, our guide on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/how-to-set-boundaries-in-the-face-of-unsolicited-advances-at-work-447161\">setting boundaries with unwanted advances at work<\/a> offers more concrete responses.<\/p>\n<h2>Our approach: an inclusive, practical feminism<\/h2>\n<p>Our feminism includes all women: fat or thin, women of color, lesbian, trans, disabled, younger or older. We connect the big questions of equality to lived situations, from a comment at the office to the division of chores, and we prefer explanations and practical steps to controversy, without ranking struggles or pitting women against each other.<\/p>\n<h2>Articles to start with<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/invisible-costs-women-bear-daily-436496\">invisible costs women bear every day<\/a>, and what they reveal about inequality.<\/li>\n<li>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/the-cool-girl-myth-when-being-desirable-mostly-means-never-causing-a-disturbance-447055\">\u201ccool girl\u201d myth<\/a>, or how being seen as desirable often comes down to never making waves.<\/li>\n<li>Why <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/why-is-a-womans-body-a-subject-of-debate-after-45-years-444443\">women\u2019s bodies after 45<\/a> are still such a hot topic, and what ageism has to do with it.<\/li>\n<li>How <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/outfits-deemed-inappropriate-dress-code-reveals-inequalities-between-men-and-women-434311\">dress codes<\/a> expose double standards between men and women.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What is feminism?<\/h3>\n<p>Feminism refers to the ideas and movements that seek equal rights, opportunities and living conditions for women and men. It spans many schools of thought that share one observation: inequality between the sexes is socially constructed, which means it can be challenged, in the law as well as in attitudes.<\/p>\n<h3>What is the difference between sexism and misogyny?<\/h3>\n<p>Sexism covers prejudice, stereotypes and discrimination based on sex, often so normalized that they go unnoticed. Misogyny refers more specifically to contempt or hostility toward women. A joke about \u201cwomen drivers\u201d is everyday sexism; a speech claiming that women are incompetent by nature is misogyny.<\/p>\n<h3>What is the mental load?<\/h3>\n<p>The mental load is the invisible work of anticipating and organizing household and family life: remembering appointments, groceries, birthdays and whatever is running low. Even when chores are shared, this project-manager role still often falls to women, with effects on their fatigue and their free time.<\/p>\n<h3>What should you do if you experience intimate partner violence?<\/h3>\n<p>If you are in immediate danger, call the emergency number in your country. Many countries have a free, confidential helpline for people experiencing domestic violence, and a doctor, a social worker or a specialized organization can help you plan your next steps. Tools such as the \u201cviolentometer,\u201d a scale that runs from green to red, can also help you recognize behaviors that call for caution or signal danger.<\/p>\n<p>Want to go further? Explore all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\">Society<\/a> topics, along with our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/grossophobie\">Fatphobia<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/lgbtqia\">LGBTQIA+<\/a> sections.<\/p>","parent":5678,"count":217,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":72943,"category_count":217,"category_description":"<p>The Feminism section of The Body Optimist covers gender equality in everyday life: everyday sexism, violence against women, work, the domestic load, rights and representation. Its explainers, first-person stories and practical advice are for anyone who wants to understand inequality and act against it, with special attention to the pressures placed on women\u2019s bodies.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Feminism section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Everyday sexism<\/strong>: remarks, jokes and expressions that normalize inequality, like the familiar <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/you-scare-men-a-remark-often-made-to-women-sparks-debate-439175\">\u201cyou scare men\u201d comment<\/a> so many women hear.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Violence and harassment<\/strong>: street and online harassment, consent, intimate partner violence and tools to help recognize abuse early.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Work and money<\/strong>: pay gaps, entrepreneurship, the division of household labor and the extra expenses that inequality places on women.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bodies and expectations<\/strong>: body hair, clothing, age and appearance, and the debates over women\u2019s freedom to decide about their own bodies and image.<\/li>\n<li><strong>History and symbols<\/strong>: pioneers, inventors and rallying symbols that tell the story of feminist movements.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Women\u2019s rights around the world<\/strong>: access to education, sports and public space, and the fights being waged from Afghanistan to Ethiopia, like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/afghan-private-schools-defy-the-ban-on-teaching-431358\">Afghan girls defying the ban on schooling<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you respond to everyday sexism?<\/h2>\n<p>Responding to everyday sexism starts with naming what was just said, without justifying yourself or apologizing. A few strategies that work:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Ask a neutral question (\u201cCan you explain what you mean?\u201d): having to spell out a remark is often enough to defuse it.<\/li>\n<li>Describe the facts instead of judging the person (\u201cThat joke reduces women to their looks\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Assess your safety: you are never obligated to respond on the spot.<\/li>\n<li>At work, write down dates, words and witnesses: in many countries, sexual harassment and sex discrimination in the workplace are against the law.<\/li>\n<li>As a bystander, support the person being targeted rather than letting silence validate the remark.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For situations at the office, our guide on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/how-to-set-boundaries-in-the-face-of-unsolicited-advances-at-work-447161\">setting boundaries with unwanted advances at work<\/a> offers more concrete responses.<\/p>\n<h2>Our approach: an inclusive, practical feminism<\/h2>\n<p>Our feminism includes all women: fat or thin, women of color, lesbian, trans, disabled, younger or older. We connect the big questions of equality to lived situations, from a comment at the office to the division of chores, and we prefer explanations and practical steps to controversy, without ranking struggles or pitting women against each other.<\/p>\n<h2>Articles to start with<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/invisible-costs-women-bear-daily-436496\">invisible costs women bear every day<\/a>, and what they reveal about inequality.<\/li>\n<li>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/the-cool-girl-myth-when-being-desirable-mostly-means-never-causing-a-disturbance-447055\">\u201ccool girl\u201d myth<\/a>, or how being seen as desirable often comes down to never making waves.<\/li>\n<li>Why <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/why-is-a-womans-body-a-subject-of-debate-after-45-years-444443\">women\u2019s bodies after 45<\/a> are still such a hot topic, and what ageism has to do with it.<\/li>\n<li>How <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/outfits-deemed-inappropriate-dress-code-reveals-inequalities-between-men-and-women-434311\">dress codes<\/a> expose double standards between men and women.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What is feminism?<\/h3>\n<p>Feminism refers to the ideas and movements that seek equal rights, opportunities and living conditions for women and men. It spans many schools of thought that share one observation: inequality between the sexes is socially constructed, which means it can be challenged, in the law as well as in attitudes.<\/p>\n<h3>What is the difference between sexism and misogyny?<\/h3>\n<p>Sexism covers prejudice, stereotypes and discrimination based on sex, often so normalized that they go unnoticed. Misogyny refers more specifically to contempt or hostility toward women. A joke about \u201cwomen drivers\u201d is everyday sexism; a speech claiming that women are incompetent by nature is misogyny.<\/p>\n<h3>What is the mental load?<\/h3>\n<p>The mental load is the invisible work of anticipating and organizing household and family life: remembering appointments, groceries, birthdays and whatever is running low. Even when chores are shared, this project-manager role still often falls to women, with effects on their fatigue and their free time.<\/p>\n<h3>What should you do if you experience intimate partner violence?<\/h3>\n<p>If you are in immediate danger, call the emergency number in your country. Many countries have a free, confidential helpline for people experiencing domestic violence, and a doctor, a social worker or a specialized organization can help you plan your next steps. Tools such as the \u201cviolentometer,\u201d a scale that runs from green to red, can also help you recognize behaviors that call for caution or signal danger.<\/p>\n<p>Want to go further? 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