{"id":431661,"date":"2026-01-02T11:58:27","date_gmt":"2026-01-02T10:58:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=431661"},"modified":"2026-01-02T11:37:53","modified_gmt":"2026-01-02T10:37:53","slug":"je-me-choisis-resolution-revient-partout-2026","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/i-choose-resolution-it-comes-back-everywhere-2026-431661","title":{"rendered":"&quot;This year, I choose myself&quot;: the resolution that&#39;s popping up everywhere in 2026"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Three words, one promise, and a breath of fresh air to start the year. If you&#39;ve scrolled through social media in early January 2026, you&#39;ve undoubtedly come across it. The phrase <em>&quot;This year, I choose myself&quot;<\/em> has emerged like a mantra, shared by people tired of conforming, fading into the background, or over-adapting.<\/p>\n<h2> Resolutions that finally look inward<\/h2>\n<p> New Year&#39;s resolutions have long been synonymous with control and performance. The body had to be corrected, transformed. The calendar, filled to the brim. Success, measured in numbers. In 2026, the trend is slowly but surely reversing. The commitments you make to yourself are becoming gentler, more conscious, and above all, more respectful.<\/p>\n<p>Choosing yourself means, for example, deciding to listen to your body as it is today, without judging it or seeking to punish it. It means adopting a body-positive attitude, recognizing that your worth depends neither on your figure nor on constant productivity. It also means accepting your limitations, both physical and emotional, and understanding that they are legitimate.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/affirmation-de-soi-conseils-oser-dire-non-293658\">Saying &quot;no&quot;<\/a> without justifying oneself, taking a step back from exhausting stories, or giving as much importance to mental health as to outward appearance: this is the new face of New Year&#39;s resolutions.<\/p>\n<h2> A dynamic amplified by social networks<\/h2>\n<p> This desire to prioritize oneself resonates widely online. On Instagram, TikTok, and X (formerly Twitter), content is proliferating around personal boundaries, relationship warning signs, and behaviors that are no longer tolerated. You&#39;ll find lists of <em>&quot;what I will no longer do to be loved,&quot;<\/em> stories of courageous career changes, and testimonials from people who have begun therapy.<\/p>\n<p>These public statements help normalize choices long perceived as radical: leaving a job that drains one of meaning, distancing oneself from a toxic relationship, or slowing down without guilt. Choosing oneself doesn&#39;t mean crushing others, but building more balanced relationships where each person fully exists. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" style=\"max-width: 605px; min-width: 325px;\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@maybeanne\/video\/7588470694300716296\" data-video-id=\"7588470694300716296\">\n<section> <a title=\"@maybeanne\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@maybeanne?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@maybeanne<\/a> <a title=\"\u266c suara asli - Vibes lyrics only\ud83e\udd40 - HairLuxLab Official Store\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/suara-asli-Vibes-lyrics-only\ud83e\udd40-7494189531500579589?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c suara asli - Vibes lyrics only\ud83e\udd40 - HairLuxLab Official Store<\/a><\/p>\n<\/section>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> A slogan that translates into concrete actions.<\/h2>\n<p> Behind this widely shared phrase, there is rarely a major, sudden upheaval. Choosing yourself often involves a series of small decisions. You might decide to consult a professional to better understand your emotional patterns. You allow yourself to spend time alone, without having to explain yourself. You re-evaluate your relationship with work, prioritizing meaning over over-commitment.<\/p>\n<p>This approach also involves examining certain deeply ingrained habits: the constant search for validation, ignoring signs of fatigue, or a complicated relationship with one&#39;s body and food. In a body-positive approach, it&#39;s not about controlling oneself more, but about cultivating self-compassion in all its dimensions.<\/p>\n<p>The popularity of <em>&quot;This year, I choose myself&quot;<\/em> in 2026 reveals a collective turning point. After years of trying to conform, prove myself, and reassure others, many are taking a step back. You are no longer seeking external approval, but inner alignment. This resolution doesn&#39;t promise a &quot;perfect year,&quot; it promises something better: a year more respectful of your own pace, your body, and your sensitivity. A year where you learn, perhaps for the first time, to truly live up to your own potential.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Three words, one promise, and a breath of fresh air to start the year. If you&#39;ve scrolled through...","protected":false},"author":8264,"featured_media":431662,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1784],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-431661","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-confiance-en-soi"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Cette-annee-je-me-choisis_-_-la-resolution-qui-revient-partout-en-2026-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Cette-annee-je-me-choisis_-_-la-resolution-qui-revient-partout-en-2026-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Cette-annee-je-me-choisis_-_-la-resolution-qui-revient-partout-en-2026.jpg","author":{"name":"Ana\u00eblle Gayon","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Agayon-96x96.jpg"},"categories":[{"term_id":1784,"name":"Self-confidence","slug":"confiance-en-soi","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":1890,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<p>The Self-confidence section of The Body Optimist helps you build self-esteem day by day, whatever your body, age or background. Practical exercises, clear explanations of patterns like imposter syndrome and stories from people who learned to speak up: everything you need to move forward without waiting to \u201cearn\u201d the right to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Self-confidence section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Exercises<\/strong>: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/small-challenges-believe-more-in-your-abilities-446961\">small challenges that help you believe in your abilities<\/a> and habits to keep that confidence going over time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Patterns to outsmart<\/strong>: imposter syndrome, feelings of inferiority, the urge to apologize constantly, trouble saying no.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Emotions<\/strong>: high sensitivity, intense feelings, negative thoughts and an inner critic that\u2019s far too harsh.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Other people\u2019s eyes<\/strong>: handling comments about your weight, braving the pool or group photos, quitting the comparison game.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Personal stories<\/strong>: women and men who regained their confidence after harassment, illness or disability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How can you build self-confidence day to day?<\/h2>\n<p>Self-confidence grows mostly through action: every small win is concrete proof of what you can do, far more convincing than a positive affirmation repeated in the mirror. A few strategies psychologists often recommend:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set modest but regular challenges, then write down what you accomplished.<\/li>\n<li>Notice your inner critic and ask yourself whether you\u2019d ever talk to a friend that way.<\/li>\n<li>Swap automatic apologies for thanks (\u201cthanks for your patience\u201d instead of \u201csorry I\u2019m late\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Accept a compliment with a simple thank-you, without downplaying it.<\/li>\n<li>Limit comparisons, especially on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Our approach to self-confidence<\/h2>\n<p>Here, self-confidence isn\u2019t reserved for people who are thin, young or \u201cperfect\u201d: it doesn\u2019t have to wait for weight loss or for some supposed flaw to be fixed. Our articles favor concrete tools over promises of overnight transformation, and remind you that low self-esteem isn\u2019t a personal failure. When distress sets in (anxiety, dark thoughts, isolation), a psychologist or therapist can support you: our content is here to inform, not to replace professional care.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/imposter-syndrome-an-invisible-mechanism-undermining-confidence-434010\">Imposter syndrome explained<\/a>: understanding the mechanism that makes you doubt your own achievements.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/saying-yes-to-please-others-a-psychologist-explains-why-you-cant-set-boundaries-429884\">Why you struggle to set boundaries<\/a>: a psychologist decodes the habit of saying yes just to please.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/youre-making-too-many-excuses-heres-what-it-could-reveal-431077\">Apologizing too much<\/a>: what this reflex may reveal, and how to assert yourself without aggression.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/believing-oneself-to-be-talentless-how-to-appease-that-critical-little-voice-436991\">Quieting your inner critic<\/a>: what to do when you\u2019re convinced you have no talent.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/harassed-by-comments-about-her-weight-she-explains-how-she-regained-her-confidence-445030\">Rebuilding confidence after weight comments<\/a>: one woman explains how she stopped letting other people\u2019s remarks define her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What\u2019s the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem?<\/h3>\n<p>Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself as a person; self-confidence is the belief that you can act and succeed in a given situation. You can feel competent at work while judging yourself harshly as a person. Both can be built, often together, through action and self-compassion.<\/p>\n<h3>What is imposter syndrome?<\/h3>\n<p>Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you don\u2019t deserve your success, along with the fear of being \u201cfound out.\u201d First described by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, who called it the impostor phenomenon, it isn\u2019t a mental illness but a common thought pattern, including among highly competent people. Listing your achievements objectively and talking about it helps defuse it.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you help a friend who lacks self-confidence?<\/h3>\n<p>Listen without minimizing what she feels, point out specific qualities rather than vague compliments, encourage her to try things without doing them for her, and avoid comparisons. If her distress lasts or gets worse, gently encourage her to talk to a mental health professional.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\">psychology topics<\/a>, learn to see your body differently with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\">Body positive<\/a>, explore family life in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\">Parenting<\/a>, and build healthier relationships in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\">Love life<\/a>.<\/p>","parent":6138,"count":380,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":1784,"category_count":380,"category_description":"<p>The Self-confidence section of The Body Optimist helps you build self-esteem day by day, whatever your body, age or background. Practical exercises, clear explanations of patterns like imposter syndrome and stories from people who learned to speak up: everything you need to move forward without waiting to \u201cearn\u201d the right to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Self-confidence section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Exercises<\/strong>: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/small-challenges-believe-more-in-your-abilities-446961\">small challenges that help you believe in your abilities<\/a> and habits to keep that confidence going over time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Patterns to outsmart<\/strong>: imposter syndrome, feelings of inferiority, the urge to apologize constantly, trouble saying no.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Emotions<\/strong>: high sensitivity, intense feelings, negative thoughts and an inner critic that\u2019s far too harsh.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Other people\u2019s eyes<\/strong>: handling comments about your weight, braving the pool or group photos, quitting the comparison game.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Personal stories<\/strong>: women and men who regained their confidence after harassment, illness or disability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How can you build self-confidence day to day?<\/h2>\n<p>Self-confidence grows mostly through action: every small win is concrete proof of what you can do, far more convincing than a positive affirmation repeated in the mirror. A few strategies psychologists often recommend:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set modest but regular challenges, then write down what you accomplished.<\/li>\n<li>Notice your inner critic and ask yourself whether you\u2019d ever talk to a friend that way.<\/li>\n<li>Swap automatic apologies for thanks (\u201cthanks for your patience\u201d instead of \u201csorry I\u2019m late\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Accept a compliment with a simple thank-you, without downplaying it.<\/li>\n<li>Limit comparisons, especially on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Our approach to self-confidence<\/h2>\n<p>Here, self-confidence isn\u2019t reserved for people who are thin, young or \u201cperfect\u201d: it doesn\u2019t have to wait for weight loss or for some supposed flaw to be fixed. Our articles favor concrete tools over promises of overnight transformation, and remind you that low self-esteem isn\u2019t a personal failure. When distress sets in (anxiety, dark thoughts, isolation), a psychologist or therapist can support you: our content is here to inform, not to replace professional care.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/imposter-syndrome-an-invisible-mechanism-undermining-confidence-434010\">Imposter syndrome explained<\/a>: understanding the mechanism that makes you doubt your own achievements.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/saying-yes-to-please-others-a-psychologist-explains-why-you-cant-set-boundaries-429884\">Why you struggle to set boundaries<\/a>: a psychologist decodes the habit of saying yes just to please.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/youre-making-too-many-excuses-heres-what-it-could-reveal-431077\">Apologizing too much<\/a>: what this reflex may reveal, and how to assert yourself without aggression.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/believing-oneself-to-be-talentless-how-to-appease-that-critical-little-voice-436991\">Quieting your inner critic<\/a>: what to do when you\u2019re convinced you have no talent.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/harassed-by-comments-about-her-weight-she-explains-how-she-regained-her-confidence-445030\">Rebuilding confidence after weight comments<\/a>: one woman explains how she stopped letting other people\u2019s remarks define her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What\u2019s the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem?<\/h3>\n<p>Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself as a person; self-confidence is the belief that you can act and succeed in a given situation. You can feel competent at work while judging yourself harshly as a person. Both can be built, often together, through action and self-compassion.<\/p>\n<h3>What is imposter syndrome?<\/h3>\n<p>Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you don\u2019t deserve your success, along with the fear of being \u201cfound out.\u201d First described by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, who called it the impostor phenomenon, it isn\u2019t a mental illness but a common thought pattern, including among highly competent people. Listing your achievements objectively and talking about it helps defuse it.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you help a friend who lacks self-confidence?<\/h3>\n<p>Listen without minimizing what she feels, point out specific qualities rather than vague compliments, encourage her to try things without doing them for her, and avoid comparisons. If her distress lasts or gets worse, gently encourage her to talk to a mental health professional.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\">psychology topics<\/a>, learn to see your body differently with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\">Body positive<\/a>, explore family life in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\">Parenting<\/a>, and build healthier relationships in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\">Love life<\/a>.<\/p>","cat_name":"Self-confidence","category_nicename":"confiance-en-soi","category_parent":6138}]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/431661","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8264"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=431661"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/431661\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":431679,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/431661\/revisions\/431679"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/431662"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=431661"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=431661"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=431661"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}