{"id":433227,"date":"2026-01-24T13:44:41","date_gmt":"2026-01-24T12:44:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=433227"},"modified":"2026-01-24T13:44:41","modified_gmt":"2026-01-24T12:44:41","slug":"en-larmes-alerte-difficulte-maternite","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/in-tears-alert-difficulty-with-motherhood-433227","title":{"rendered":"&quot;Don&#39;t have children&quot;: in tears, she warns of the difficulties of motherhood"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A heartbreaking video posted on TikTok by @weatheredanystorm has moved millions of internet users in recent days. In tears, the young mother films a moment of extreme distress, declaring that becoming a parent was &quot;the worst mistake of her life.&quot;<\/p>\n<h2> A raw and unfiltered cry for help<\/h2>\n<p> The video by @weatheredanystorm, filmed in a moment of solitude and obvious exhaustion, sheds light on a rarely seen reality: that of a mother overwhelmed by the emotional, mental, and physical burden of raising a child, possibly autistic. In the video, she states: <em>&quot;If you&#39;re not ready to have an autistic child or whatever... don&#39;t have children.&quot;<\/em> She confides that she no longer knows how to cope: <em>&quot;I don&#39;t know if I can take this for the rest of my life. I&#39;m about to take him to his father&#39;s, even though he doesn&#39;t respond, and just leave him there for days at this point.&quot;<\/em> These words, spoken in a state of utter exhaustion, have been widely shared, eliciting both compassion and reflection. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" style=\"max-width: 605px; min-width: 325px;\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@weatheredanystorm\/video\/7592763404025122062\" data-video-id=\"7592763404025122062\">\n<section> <a title=\"@weatheredanystorm\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@weatheredanystorm?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@weatheredanystorm<\/a> Idk if i can deal with this for a lifetime. Im avoit to take him to his dad even though he aint respond and just leave him for days atp <a title=\"foryoupage\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/foryoupage?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">#foryoupage<\/a> <a title=\"spectrum\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/spectrum?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">#spectrum<\/a> <a title=\"\u266c Original sound - Rani\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7592763505460775694?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound - Rani<\/a><\/section>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> A wave of support\u2026 and warnings<\/h2>\n<p> In the comments, many internet users, often parents of neurodivergent children themselves, express their understanding: <em>&quot;Enroll him in daycare as soon as possible, you need a nap!&quot;<\/em> or <em>&quot;As the mother of an autistic child... you have to grieve, privately, what you thought motherhood would be like. Then, I promise you, what he does will seem more interesting than difficult.&quot;<\/em> Some people also share their own experiences, mentioning the help they received after contacting social services: <em>&quot;I reached exactly that point. I called child protective services and they gave me so many resources.&quot;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Ultimately, while @weatheredanystorm&#39;s video may have been shocking, it primarily highlights a persistent taboo: that of parental regret, maternal exhaustion, and the urgent need for support for single mothers. It&#39;s a stark reminder that motherhood isn&#39;t always instinctive or straightforward\u2014and that talking about it, without judgment, is a first step toward greater solidarity.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"A heartbreaking video posted on TikTok by @weatheredanystorm has moved millions of internet users in recent days. In...","protected":false},"author":8394,"featured_media":433229,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6139],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-433227","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-vie-de-maman"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Nayez-pas-denfants_-_-en-larmes-elle-alerte-sur-la-difficulte-de-la-maternite-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Nayez-pas-denfants_-_-en-larmes-elle-alerte-sur-la-difficulte-de-la-maternite-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/Nayez-pas-denfants_-_-en-larmes-elle-alerte-sur-la-difficulte-de-la-maternite.jpg","author":{"name":"L\u00e9a Michel","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/1721220128171-96x96.jpg"},"categories":[{"term_id":6139,"name":"Parenting","slug":"vie-de-maman","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":6311,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<p>The Parenting section of The Body Optimist supports moms, dads and every kind of family through everyday life with kids: raising children, emotions, school, relationships and the mental load. Advice from child development professionals, explainers and personal stories approach parenting without guilt, whatever your family looks like.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Parenting section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Raising kids<\/strong>: teaching children to share, setting limits without yelling, praising effort over intelligence, with ideas drawn from positive parenting.<\/li>\n<li><strong>School and bullying<\/strong>: helping your child feel good at school, spotting the signs of bullying and knowing how to respond.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Postpartum for both parents<\/strong>: your body after birth, the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/sleep-deprivation-fatigue-loneliness-the-reality-of-young-mothers-433661\">exhaustion and loneliness of new mothers<\/a>, and postpartum depression in fathers, still too little known.<\/li>\n<li><strong>All kinds of families<\/strong>: single-parent, blended and same-sex parent families, parents with disabilities, with more stories in our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/lgbtqia\">LGBTQIA+<\/a> section.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Family relationships<\/strong>: your bond with your own parents, toxic families, overbearing grandparents, sibling rivalry.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Life choices<\/strong>: wanting children, or not, discussed without judgment or social pressure.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you set limits for your child without yelling?<\/h2>\n<p>Setting boundaries without yelling relies on clarity and consistency more than strictness. Keep instructions short and positive (\u201cwe walk in the hallway\u201d rather than \u201cdon\u2019t run\u201d), get down to your child\u2019s eye level and look at them. Announce transitions ahead of time to head off meltdowns when an activity ends. Name your child\u2019s feeling without giving in on the rule: \u201cYou\u2019re angry because the screen is turning off. I get it, and it\u2019s bath time.\u201d When tension rises, stepping out of the room for a few seconds beats raising your voice. Some parents even <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/giving-orders-to-a-singing-child-an-unusual-trick-to-avoid-shouting-428727\">sing their instructions<\/a> to keep things light. No parent is perfect: apologizing after you lose your temper also teaches your child how to repair a relationship.<\/p>\n<h2>Our take on parenting<\/h2>\n<p>Parenting doesn\u2019t rest on mothers alone: we also talk about dads, co-parents, blended, single-parent and LGBTQ+ families, and people who choose not to have children. There\u2019s no single model or \u201cperfect mom\u201d here: our articles share guidance without making anyone feel guilty. For any concern about a child\u2019s health or development, your pediatrician, family doctor or a child psychologist remains the best person to ask.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/top-phrases-help-children-express-emotions-444372\">What to say instead of \u201cstop crying\u201d<\/a>: five phrases that help children express their emotions.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/monster-under-the-bed-really-means-childhood-fear-428271\">The monster under the bed<\/a>: what this classic childhood fear really means and how to respond.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/eldest-daughter-syndrome-confirmed-by-science-study-reigniting-debate-430888\">Eldest daughter syndrome<\/a>: what research says about the responsibilities often placed on firstborn girls.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/be-a-mother-but-stay-slim-she-breaks-the-silence-pressure-weighs-on-young-mothers-432933\">The pressure to \u201cbounce back\u201d after birth<\/a>: one mother speaks out against the demand to stay thin.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/you-post-pictures-of-children-on-social-media-heres-something-you-probably-dont-know-428755\">Posting photos of your kids online<\/a>: what to know before you share.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>Can fathers get postpartum depression?<\/h3>\n<p>Yes. Some fathers go through sadness, irritability or anxiety after a baby arrives, sometimes called the \u201cdaddy blues.\u201d When these symptoms last for several weeks, it may be paternal postpartum depression, a condition recognized by health professionals. Intense fatigue, feeling useless or withdrawing from others are warning signs: talking to a doctor is the first step toward getting support.<\/p>\n<h3>What is positive parenting?<\/h3>\n<p>Positive parenting, close to what is often called gentle parenting, guides children through listening, explanation and encouragement rather than punishment, yelling or humiliation. It isn\u2019t the same as being permissive: rules still exist, but they\u2019re set with respect. A growing number of countries have also banned corporal punishment of children, spanking included.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you tell if your child is being bullied at school?<\/h3>\n<p>Several signs can raise concern: refusing to go to school, repeated stomachaches or headaches in the morning, slipping grades, damaged or missing belongings, isolation, trouble sleeping, mood changes after using their phone. Start the conversation calmly, without dramatizing, then contact the school. Many countries also have helplines dedicated to bullying and cyberbullying.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\">psychology topics<\/a> on emotions, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\">Self-confidence<\/a> to find your footing again after a baby arrives, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\">Body positive<\/a> to see your body with kindness, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sante\/grossesse\">Pregnancy<\/a> for the months before birth.<\/p>","parent":6138,"count":703,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":6139,"category_count":703,"category_description":"<p>The Parenting section of The Body Optimist supports moms, dads and every kind of family through everyday life with kids: raising children, emotions, school, relationships and the mental load. Advice from child development professionals, explainers and personal stories approach parenting without guilt, whatever your family looks like.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Parenting section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Raising kids<\/strong>: teaching children to share, setting limits without yelling, praising effort over intelligence, with ideas drawn from positive parenting.<\/li>\n<li><strong>School and bullying<\/strong>: helping your child feel good at school, spotting the signs of bullying and knowing how to respond.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Postpartum for both parents<\/strong>: your body after birth, the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/sleep-deprivation-fatigue-loneliness-the-reality-of-young-mothers-433661\">exhaustion and loneliness of new mothers<\/a>, and postpartum depression in fathers, still too little known.<\/li>\n<li><strong>All kinds of families<\/strong>: single-parent, blended and same-sex parent families, parents with disabilities, with more stories in our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/lgbtqia\">LGBTQIA+<\/a> section.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Family relationships<\/strong>: your bond with your own parents, toxic families, overbearing grandparents, sibling rivalry.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Life choices<\/strong>: wanting children, or not, discussed without judgment or social pressure.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you set limits for your child without yelling?<\/h2>\n<p>Setting boundaries without yelling relies on clarity and consistency more than strictness. Keep instructions short and positive (\u201cwe walk in the hallway\u201d rather than \u201cdon\u2019t run\u201d), get down to your child\u2019s eye level and look at them. Announce transitions ahead of time to head off meltdowns when an activity ends. Name your child\u2019s feeling without giving in on the rule: \u201cYou\u2019re angry because the screen is turning off. I get it, and it\u2019s bath time.\u201d When tension rises, stepping out of the room for a few seconds beats raising your voice. Some parents even <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/giving-orders-to-a-singing-child-an-unusual-trick-to-avoid-shouting-428727\">sing their instructions<\/a> to keep things light. No parent is perfect: apologizing after you lose your temper also teaches your child how to repair a relationship.<\/p>\n<h2>Our take on parenting<\/h2>\n<p>Parenting doesn\u2019t rest on mothers alone: we also talk about dads, co-parents, blended, single-parent and LGBTQ+ families, and people who choose not to have children. There\u2019s no single model or \u201cperfect mom\u201d here: our articles share guidance without making anyone feel guilty. For any concern about a child\u2019s health or development, your pediatrician, family doctor or a child psychologist remains the best person to ask.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/top-phrases-help-children-express-emotions-444372\">What to say instead of \u201cstop crying\u201d<\/a>: five phrases that help children express their emotions.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/monster-under-the-bed-really-means-childhood-fear-428271\">The monster under the bed<\/a>: what this classic childhood fear really means and how to respond.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/eldest-daughter-syndrome-confirmed-by-science-study-reigniting-debate-430888\">Eldest daughter syndrome<\/a>: what research says about the responsibilities often placed on firstborn girls.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/be-a-mother-but-stay-slim-she-breaks-the-silence-pressure-weighs-on-young-mothers-432933\">The pressure to \u201cbounce back\u201d after birth<\/a>: one mother speaks out against the demand to stay thin.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\/you-post-pictures-of-children-on-social-media-heres-something-you-probably-dont-know-428755\">Posting photos of your kids online<\/a>: what to know before you share.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>Can fathers get postpartum depression?<\/h3>\n<p>Yes. Some fathers go through sadness, irritability or anxiety after a baby arrives, sometimes called the \u201cdaddy blues.\u201d When these symptoms last for several weeks, it may be paternal postpartum depression, a condition recognized by health professionals. Intense fatigue, feeling useless or withdrawing from others are warning signs: talking to a doctor is the first step toward getting support.<\/p>\n<h3>What is positive parenting?<\/h3>\n<p>Positive parenting, close to what is often called gentle parenting, guides children through listening, explanation and encouragement rather than punishment, yelling or humiliation. It isn\u2019t the same as being permissive: rules still exist, but they\u2019re set with respect. A growing number of countries have also banned corporal punishment of children, spanking included.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you tell if your child is being bullied at school?<\/h3>\n<p>Several signs can raise concern: refusing to go to school, repeated stomachaches or headaches in the morning, slipping grades, damaged or missing belongings, isolation, trouble sleeping, mood changes after using their phone. Start the conversation calmly, without dramatizing, then contact the school. Many countries also have helplines dedicated to bullying and cyberbullying.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\">psychology topics<\/a> on emotions, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\">Self-confidence<\/a> to find your footing again after a baby arrives, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\">Body positive<\/a> to see your body with kindness, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sante\/grossesse\">Pregnancy<\/a> for the months before birth.<\/p>","cat_name":"Parenting","category_nicename":"vie-de-maman","category_parent":6138}]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/433227","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8394"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=433227"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/433227\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":433264,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/433227\/revisions\/433264"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/433229"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=433227"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=433227"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=433227"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}