{"id":436550,"date":"2026-03-14T08:43:14","date_gmt":"2026-03-14T07:43:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=436550"},"modified":"2026-03-14T08:18:32","modified_gmt":"2026-03-14T07:18:32","slug":"habitude-discrete-certains-hommes-adoptent-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/discreet-habit-some-men-adopt-as-a-couple-436550","title":{"rendered":"This discreet habit that some men adopt in a relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>While women regularly use the &quot;Notes&quot; app on their phones to jot down the names of their future children and their grocery lists, men use it too. And not just to remember passwords or car model numbers. Their digital notebooks are far from blank, and what they contain is rather romantic. A trend is emerging on TikTok: men are showing off this &quot;secret note&quot; they keep about their girlfriends on their phones.<\/p>\n<h2> Notes on their girlfriend&#39;s preferences<\/h2>\n<p> Women aren&#39;t the only ones filling the virtual pages of their &quot;Notes&quot; app, which is almost like a personal diary. While they use it to write their shopping lists, remember their friends&#39; advice, sketch out their ideal man, and recount their childhood traumas, men use it for a different purpose. And no, their journals aren&#39;t filled with gamer jargon or incomprehensible workout routines. Men dedicate entire pages to their girlfriends and keep a veritable file on them. Nothing compromising, rest assured.<\/p>\n<p>When your boyfriend isn&#39;t bombarding you with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/humour-couple-cle-bonheur-bienfaits-349180\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">funny Reels<\/a> , he&#39;s probably too busy filling out your profile and refining your online persona. Unlike women, who often have a ready-made breakup draft at their fingertips, men use notes like sticky notes. Since they don&#39;t have enough brain space to remember your favorite color, shoe size, and go-to Starbucks drink, they keep track of these things in their notes.<\/p>\n<p>While this 007-esque technique might seem like stalking coming from a stranger, in the hands of your partner, it sounds particularly sweet. Measuring your ring finger in anticipation of a marriage proposal, the ingredients of your favorite Subway sandwich, the date of your first meeting\u2026 men don&#39;t want to forget any details. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" style=\"max-width: 605px; min-width: 325px;\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@barstoolsports\/video\/7563729567861476663\" data-video-id=\"7563729567861476663\">\n<section> <a title=\"@barstoolsports\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@barstoolsports?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@barstoolsports<\/a> He&#39;s the notes app king \ud83d\udc51 @Barstool Gametime (via:@Tay <a title=\"\u266c original sound - Barstool Sports\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7563729730529217293?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound - Barstool Sports<\/a><\/section>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> A thoughtful gesture highlighted on TikTok<\/h2>\n<p> Far from being the habit of an obsessive psychopath, this little sentimental reminder is a beautiful expression of love. Content creator Jessica Kirk uncovered this secret practice, which forces men to turn their phones around and explains why they type while you&#39;re talking. Following her post, men didn&#39;t deny it. On the contrary, they confessed their romantic tendencies, screenshots included.<\/p>\n<p>They eagerly opened their &quot;Notes&quot; app, confirming the rumors and sharing their meticulous research on their girlfriend&#39;s tastes. It&#39;s almost like a biography. These men don&#39;t just remember their partner&#39;s signature scent. Reading frequency, allergies, topics that annoy her, little daily quirks, the order in which she eats her food, the only brand of yogurt she&#39;ll eat\u2026 these aren&#39;t trivial details, but a thorough and detailed analysis. Even James Bond can&#39;t compete. While men might stutter when it comes to planning vacations or household chores, here they demonstrate their organizational skills.<\/p>\n<h2> What this trend really says<\/h2>\n<p> If your partner is typing away at 3 a.m., they&#39;re probably not writing to their mistress. They&#39;re more likely entering your lucky number or your order at the Italian restaurant. These love notes, which are almost like relationship revision notes, primarily demonstrate a desire: a desire to pay attention to detail. Remembering your favorite chocolate brand, the movie that always makes you cry, or your favorite flower is far from trivial. It&#39;s a subtle way of showing that you&#39;re listening and remembering.<\/p>\n<p>This little digital notebook acts as an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/signes-prouvent-partenaire-emotionnellement-indisponible-376111\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">emotional compass<\/a> . It helps you plan a surprise, choose the perfect restaurant, or simply avoid forgetting an important detail. Of course, some people find this almost &quot;professional&quot; method of expressing love amusing, but behind the somewhat methodical aspect often lies something very simple: the desire to do things well.<\/p>\n<p>While some women instinctively record this information, men prefer to archive it in black and white. Men are capable of memorizing Minecraft cheat codes, but they need reminders to record their wedding date. They know the options of a car model and the functions of a DIY tool by heart, but they struggle to remember their sweetheart&#39;s favorite Disney movie. Why? Because women have been conditioned to remember everything, while men have always been more spontaneous.<\/p>\n<p>So no, it&#39;s not some secret file worthy of a double agent. It&#39;s simply a modern way of saying, <em>&quot;You matter enough for me to take notes.&quot;<\/em> And while the idea might seem amusing, it primarily serves as a reminder of something essential in any story: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/micro-romantisme-nouvelle-maniere-aimer-2025-414845\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">small gestures<\/a> often speak louder than words.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"While women regularly use the &quot;Notes&quot; app on their phones to jot down the names of their future...","protected":false},"author":8340,"featured_media":436552,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5717],"tags":[97833,97333,97372],"class_list":["post-436550","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-vie-amoureuse","tag-actu","tag-couple","tag-relation"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/hommes-notes-copines-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/hommes-notes-copines-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/hommes-notes-copines.jpg","author":{"name":"\u00c9milie Laurent","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/cropped-2f5d8c00d5d5c27f8ce4d9b3f9015467-96x96.png"},"categories":[{"term_id":5717,"name":"Love life","slug":"vie-amoureuse","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":5885,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<p>The Love life section of The Body Optimist unpacks relationships in all their forms: dating, attraction, life as a couple, jealousy, breakups and being single. Advice from therapists, psychological insights and personal stories help you build healthy, balanced relationships, with no pressure to couple up and no one-size-fits-all model.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Love life section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Dating and attraction<\/strong>: dating apps, first dates, meeting people offline and feeling confident when someone is looking at you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Communication<\/strong>: the five love languages, words that soothe and those that wear a relationship down, and why <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/fexting-why-arguing-by-text-message-often-complicates-things-444706\">arguing by text<\/a> so often backfires.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Toxic relationships<\/strong>: jealousy, possessiveness, love bombing and manipulation, with tips to spot red flags such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/all-my-crazy-exes-red-flag-lovers-minimize-too-often-444547\">the partner for whom all their exes are \u201ccrazy\u201d<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Breakups<\/strong>: grieving a relationship, getting over a letdown, no longer dwelling on your ex, and why some exes move on so fast, explained by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/why-some-exes-quickly-get-involved-in-new-relationships-after-a-breakup-the-taxi-theory-explained-433348\">the taxi theory<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Balance as a couple<\/strong>: keeping your friends, your projects and your own space, even in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Every love story<\/strong>: LGBTQIA+ couples, age gaps, long-distance relationships, chosen singlehood.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you get over a breakup?<\/h2>\n<p>Getting over a breakup takes time, and the pain often feels like grief: sadness, anger, nostalgia and relief can take turns. A few steps help you through it: limit contact with your ex and the urge to check their social media, put away objects that stir up memories, lean on friends and family rather than isolating yourself, get back to your routines (sleep, meals, movement) and reinvest in activities that are yours alone. Writing down what you feel helps put your thoughts in order. If the sadness lasts for weeks and keeps you from functioning day to day, a therapist can help you move forward.<\/p>\n<h2>Our take on love<\/h2>\n<p>We don\u2019t see being in a couple as a goal to reach: single, exclusive, living together without marrying or in a decades-long relationship, every path deserves to be told without judgment. Our articles reject the idea that you need to change your body to be loved, and remind you that excessive jealousy and control are never proof of love. They speak to all couples, straight and LGBTQIA+, and offer guidance without claiming to replace couples therapy or psychological support.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/can-we-really-change-a-narcissist-psychologists-answer-without-hesitation-428646\">Can a narcissist really change?<\/a>: what psychologists answer, and what it means for you.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/these-7-evening-rituals-that-happy-couples-share-431716\">Evening rituals of happy couples<\/a>: seven simple habits to stay close day after day.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/the-777-rule-avoid-routine-in-a-relationship-436391\">The 7-7-7 rule<\/a>: a simple plan to keep routine from taking over your relationship.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/romantic-cliches-in-cinema-have-taught-us-to-believe-446825\">Romantic movie myths<\/a>: the clich\u00e9s about love that films taught us to believe.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>How can you tell if a relationship is toxic?<\/h3>\n<p>A relationship becomes toxic when one partner controls, belittles or isolates the other: checking their phone, constant criticism, emotional blackmail, swinging between passionate declarations and coldness. \u201cNarcissist\u201d gets used loosely online, but narcissistic personality disorder is a clinical diagnosis: focus on behaviors rather than labels. If you\u2019re facing violence, contact a domestic violence hotline or your local emergency services.<\/p>\n<h3>What are the five love languages?<\/h3>\n<p>Developed by American marriage counselor Gary Chapman, the five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. The idea is that each person tends to express and receive affection in a preferred way. It\u2019s a popular framework for avoiding misunderstandings, not a scientifically validated theory.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you meet someone without dating apps?<\/h3>\n<p>Connections often grow out of activities you repeat over time: a sports club, a choir, a community group, volunteering, evening classes. Say yes to invitations, let friends introduce you to their circle, and start conversations around a shared interest. The goal isn\u2019t to impress at all costs but to create more chances to connect.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\">sex and relationship topics<\/a>, pleasure and sexual health in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/sexualite\">Sexuality<\/a>, wedding planning and anniversaries in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/mariage\">Marriage<\/a>, and tools to stand your ground in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\">Self-confidence<\/a>.<\/p>","parent":6135,"count":709,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":5717,"category_count":709,"category_description":"<p>The Love life section of The Body Optimist unpacks relationships in all their forms: dating, attraction, life as a couple, jealousy, breakups and being single. Advice from therapists, psychological insights and personal stories help you build healthy, balanced relationships, with no pressure to couple up and no one-size-fits-all model.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Love life section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Dating and attraction<\/strong>: dating apps, first dates, meeting people offline and feeling confident when someone is looking at you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Communication<\/strong>: the five love languages, words that soothe and those that wear a relationship down, and why <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/fexting-why-arguing-by-text-message-often-complicates-things-444706\">arguing by text<\/a> so often backfires.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Toxic relationships<\/strong>: jealousy, possessiveness, love bombing and manipulation, with tips to spot red flags such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/all-my-crazy-exes-red-flag-lovers-minimize-too-often-444547\">the partner for whom all their exes are \u201ccrazy\u201d<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Breakups<\/strong>: grieving a relationship, getting over a letdown, no longer dwelling on your ex, and why some exes move on so fast, explained by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/why-some-exes-quickly-get-involved-in-new-relationships-after-a-breakup-the-taxi-theory-explained-433348\">the taxi theory<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Balance as a couple<\/strong>: keeping your friends, your projects and your own space, even in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Every love story<\/strong>: LGBTQIA+ couples, age gaps, long-distance relationships, chosen singlehood.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you get over a breakup?<\/h2>\n<p>Getting over a breakup takes time, and the pain often feels like grief: sadness, anger, nostalgia and relief can take turns. A few steps help you through it: limit contact with your ex and the urge to check their social media, put away objects that stir up memories, lean on friends and family rather than isolating yourself, get back to your routines (sleep, meals, movement) and reinvest in activities that are yours alone. Writing down what you feel helps put your thoughts in order. If the sadness lasts for weeks and keeps you from functioning day to day, a therapist can help you move forward.<\/p>\n<h2>Our take on love<\/h2>\n<p>We don\u2019t see being in a couple as a goal to reach: single, exclusive, living together without marrying or in a decades-long relationship, every path deserves to be told without judgment. Our articles reject the idea that you need to change your body to be loved, and remind you that excessive jealousy and control are never proof of love. They speak to all couples, straight and LGBTQIA+, and offer guidance without claiming to replace couples therapy or psychological support.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/can-we-really-change-a-narcissist-psychologists-answer-without-hesitation-428646\">Can a narcissist really change?<\/a>: what psychologists answer, and what it means for you.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/these-7-evening-rituals-that-happy-couples-share-431716\">Evening rituals of happy couples<\/a>: seven simple habits to stay close day after day.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/the-777-rule-avoid-routine-in-a-relationship-436391\">The 7-7-7 rule<\/a>: a simple plan to keep routine from taking over your relationship.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/romantic-cliches-in-cinema-have-taught-us-to-believe-446825\">Romantic movie myths<\/a>: the clich\u00e9s about love that films taught us to believe.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>How can you tell if a relationship is toxic?<\/h3>\n<p>A relationship becomes toxic when one partner controls, belittles or isolates the other: checking their phone, constant criticism, emotional blackmail, swinging between passionate declarations and coldness. \u201cNarcissist\u201d gets used loosely online, but narcissistic personality disorder is a clinical diagnosis: focus on behaviors rather than labels. If you\u2019re facing violence, contact a domestic violence hotline or your local emergency services.<\/p>\n<h3>What are the five love languages?<\/h3>\n<p>Developed by American marriage counselor Gary Chapman, the five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. The idea is that each person tends to express and receive affection in a preferred way. It\u2019s a popular framework for avoiding misunderstandings, not a scientifically validated theory.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you meet someone without dating apps?<\/h3>\n<p>Connections often grow out of activities you repeat over time: a sports club, a choir, a community group, volunteering, evening classes. Say yes to invitations, let friends introduce you to their circle, and start conversations around a shared interest. The goal isn\u2019t to impress at all costs but to create more chances to connect.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\">sex and relationship topics<\/a>, pleasure and sexual health in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/sexualite\">Sexuality<\/a>, wedding planning and anniversaries in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/mariage\">Marriage<\/a>, and tools to stand your ground in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\">Self-confidence<\/a>.<\/p>","cat_name":"Love life","category_nicename":"vie-amoureuse","category_parent":6135}]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/436550","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8340"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=436550"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/436550\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":436808,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/436550\/revisions\/436808"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/436552"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=436550"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=436550"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=436550"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}