{"id":441700,"date":"2026-05-17T19:29:37","date_gmt":"2026-05-17T17:29:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=441700"},"modified":"2026-05-17T19:29:37","modified_gmt":"2026-05-17T17:29:37","slug":"top-choses-elle-refuse-faire-femme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/top-things-she-refuses-to-do-woman-441700","title":{"rendered":"&quot;I won&#39;t humiliate you in front of men&quot;: she reveals the 5 things she refuses to do as a woman"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>On Instagram, content creator Chlo\u00e9 (@thegingerchloe) sparked a wave of reactions with a video that was as simple as it was effective: 5 behaviors she refuses to adopt towards other women. Behind this list lies a clear message: stop the constant competition and focus on supporting each other. It&#39;s a message that resonates with an entire generation tired of judgment and comparisons.<\/p>\n<h2> Sisterhood, in practical terms<\/h2>\n<p> Sisterhood isn&#39;t just a &quot;militant concept reserved for feminist debates.&quot; On social media, it&#39;s becoming a true &quot;way of life.&quot; And rather than grand theoretical pronouncements, some content creators now prefer to talk about concrete, everyday actions. That&#39;s exactly what Chlo\u00e9 did in her viral Reel. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DYP4bkkNthk\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\"> View this post on Instagram <\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"> <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DYP4bkkNthk\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by Chlo\u00e9 Bidault \ud83e\uddda\ud83c\udffc\u200d\u2640\ufe0f\u2728 (@thegingerchloe)<\/a> <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> 1. Stop the criticism about physical appearance<\/h2>\n<p> Her first commitment: never attack another woman&#39;s appearance. For her, it&#39;s impossible to judge a body without knowing its history, its health, or its invisible wounds. It&#39;s a way of reminding everyone that no body shape deserves to be commented on or humiliated, especially in a society still obsessed with physical standards.<\/p>\n<h2> 2. Refusing to place all the blame on a woman<\/h2>\n<p> Second rule: don&#39;t place the entire blame for infidelity on a woman. When a man cheats on his partner, Chlo\u00e9 refuses to make &quot;the other woman&quot; the perfect scapegoat. This is a widespread social reflex that often exonerates the man who has, in fact, betrayed his commitment.<\/p>\n<h2> 3. Motherhood is not a public issue<\/h2>\n<p> She also addresses a particularly sensitive topic: motherhood. Having children, not wanting them, experiencing difficulties conceiving\u2026 these are all intimate realities that should never become public interrogations. Chlo\u00e9 explains that she prefers to avoid intrusive questions, aware of the pain some women may endure in silence.<\/p>\n<h2> 4. No more putting a woman down to please her<\/h2>\n<p> Another key point of her video is her categorical refusal to put down another woman to gain male approval. Chlo\u00e9 (@thegingerchloe) specifically criticizes these behaviors where some women seek to stand out by humiliating others to appear &quot;different&quot; or more appealing to men. This attitude has been widely denounced on social media in recent years.<\/p>\n<h2> 5. Celebrate success instead of being jealous of it<\/h2>\n<p> Finally, she states that she wants to celebrate the ambition and success of other women rather than envy them. Professional success, financial independence, personal projects: for Chlo\u00e9 (@thegingerchloe), seeing a woman succeed should be a source of collective inspiration, not a threat.<\/p>\n<h2> A video that speaks to many women<\/h2>\n<p> The comments following her post have multiplied. Many internet users recount having already experienced these remarks or admit to having sometimes unwittingly participated in these judgmental mechanisms. This success demonstrates above all how much these messages resonate today.<\/p>\n<p>With this list, Chlo\u00e9 (@thegingerchloe) transforms sisterhood into something concrete and accessible. No need for &quot;grand slogans&quot;: sometimes, supporting other women simply begins with refusing easy criticism, humiliation, or toxic comparisons.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"On Instagram, content creator Chlo\u00e9 (@thegingerchloe) sparked a wave of reactions with a video that was as simple...","protected":false},"author":8264,"featured_media":441701,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[72943],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-441700","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-feminisme"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Je-ne-te-rabaisserai-pas-devant-des-hommes_-_-elle-revele-les-5-choses-quelle-refuse-de-faire-en-t-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Je-ne-te-rabaisserai-pas-devant-des-hommes_-_-elle-revele-les-5-choses-quelle-refuse-de-faire-en-t-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Je-ne-te-rabaisserai-pas-devant-des-hommes_-_-elle-revele-les-5-choses-quelle-refuse-de-faire-en-t.jpg","author":{"name":"Ana\u00eblle Gayon","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Agayon-96x96.jpg"},"categories":[{"term_id":72943,"name":"Feminism","slug":"feminisme","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":73115,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<p>The Feminism section of The Body Optimist covers gender equality in everyday life: everyday sexism, violence against women, work, the domestic load, rights and representation. 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A few strategies that work:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Ask a neutral question (\u201cCan you explain what you mean?\u201d): having to spell out a remark is often enough to defuse it.<\/li>\n<li>Describe the facts instead of judging the person (\u201cThat joke reduces women to their looks\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Assess your safety: you are never obligated to respond on the spot.<\/li>\n<li>At work, write down dates, words and witnesses: in many countries, sexual harassment and sex discrimination in the workplace are against the law.<\/li>\n<li>As a bystander, support the person being targeted rather than letting silence validate the remark.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For situations at the office, our guide on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/how-to-set-boundaries-in-the-face-of-unsolicited-advances-at-work-447161\">setting boundaries with unwanted advances at work<\/a> offers more concrete responses.<\/p>\n<h2>Our approach: an inclusive, practical feminism<\/h2>\n<p>Our feminism includes all women: fat or thin, women of color, lesbian, trans, disabled, younger or older. We connect the big questions of equality to lived situations, from a comment at the office to the division of chores, and we prefer explanations and practical steps to controversy, without ranking struggles or pitting women against each other.<\/p>\n<h2>Articles to start with<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/invisible-costs-women-bear-daily-436496\">invisible costs women bear every day<\/a>, and what they reveal about inequality.<\/li>\n<li>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/the-cool-girl-myth-when-being-desirable-mostly-means-never-causing-a-disturbance-447055\">\u201ccool girl\u201d myth<\/a>, or how being seen as desirable often comes down to never making waves.<\/li>\n<li>Why <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/why-is-a-womans-body-a-subject-of-debate-after-45-years-444443\">women\u2019s bodies after 45<\/a> are still such a hot topic, and what ageism has to do with it.<\/li>\n<li>How <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/feminisme\/outfits-deemed-inappropriate-dress-code-reveals-inequalities-between-men-and-women-434311\">dress codes<\/a> expose double standards between men and women.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What is feminism?<\/h3>\n<p>Feminism refers to the ideas and movements that seek equal rights, opportunities and living conditions for women and men. It spans many schools of thought that share one observation: inequality between the sexes is socially constructed, which means it can be challenged, in the law as well as in attitudes.<\/p>\n<h3>What is the difference between sexism and misogyny?<\/h3>\n<p>Sexism covers prejudice, stereotypes and discrimination based on sex, often so normalized that they go unnoticed. Misogyny refers more specifically to contempt or hostility toward women. A joke about \u201cwomen drivers\u201d is everyday sexism; a speech claiming that women are incompetent by nature is misogyny.<\/p>\n<h3>What is the mental load?<\/h3>\n<p>The mental load is the invisible work of anticipating and organizing household and family life: remembering appointments, groceries, birthdays and whatever is running low. Even when chores are shared, this project-manager role still often falls to women, with effects on their fatigue and their free time.<\/p>\n<h3>What should you do if you experience intimate partner violence?<\/h3>\n<p>If you are in immediate danger, call the emergency number in your country. Many countries have a free, confidential helpline for people experiencing domestic violence, and a doctor, a social worker or a specialized organization can help you plan your next steps. Tools such as the \u201cviolentometer,\u201d a scale that runs from green to red, can also help you recognize behaviors that call for caution or signal danger.<\/p>\n<p>Want to go further? 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A few strategies that work:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Ask a neutral question (\u201cCan you explain what you mean?\u201d): having to spell out a remark is often enough to defuse it.<\/li>\n<li>Describe the facts instead of judging the person (\u201cThat joke reduces women to their looks\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Assess your safety: you are never obligated to respond on the spot.<\/li>\n<li>At work, write down dates, words and witnesses: in many countries, sexual harassment and sex discrimination in the workplace are against the law.<\/li>\n<li>As a bystander, support the person being targeted rather than letting silence validate the remark.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For situations at the office, our guide on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/how-to-set-boundaries-in-the-face-of-unsolicited-advances-at-work-447161\">setting boundaries with unwanted advances at work<\/a> offers more concrete responses.<\/p>\n<h2>Our approach: an inclusive, practical feminism<\/h2>\n<p>Our feminism includes all women: fat or thin, women of color, lesbian, trans, disabled, younger or older. 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