{"id":443078,"date":"2026-05-28T09:25:59","date_gmt":"2026-05-28T07:25:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=443078"},"modified":"2026-05-28T09:25:59","modified_gmt":"2026-05-28T07:25:59","slug":"limerence-phenomene-amoureux-intrigue-femmes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/limerence-a-love-affair-intrigue-women-443078","title":{"rendered":"&quot;Limerence,&quot; this romantic phenomenon that intrigues more and more women"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Do you constantly think about this person, analyze their every message, and does your mood sometimes depend on a single glance? It might not be &quot;just a crush.&quot; Lately, a word has been popping up everywhere on social media: limerence. Behind this still relatively unknown term lies a romantic experience that is as intense as it is unsettling.<\/p>\n<h2> Limerence, a love that takes up all the space<\/h2>\n<p> The word may sound complicated, but many immediately recognize what it describes. Limerence refers to a <strong>state of very strong emotional attachment<\/strong> to a person whose feelings remain unclear or uncertain. As a result, the mind races.<\/p>\n<p>The concept was coined in the 1970s by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.choosingtherapy.com\/limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">American psychologist Dorothy Tennov<\/a> , who studied this particular form of romantic infatuation. According to her, limerence is distinguished by its involuntary and sometimes overwhelming nature. One doesn&#39;t really &quot;choose&quot; to become immersed in it. Today, this phenomenon resonates with a great many people: a recent survey estimates that more than half of all people have experienced it at least once.<\/p>\n<h2> The signs that don&#39;t lie<\/h2>\n<p> Limerence is not like a simple, mild attraction. It is often accompanied by obsessive thoughts about the other person: you replay conversations, you interpret every little detail, and you eagerly await signs of attention.<\/p>\n<p>Another common characteristic is idealization. The person in question seems almost perfect, placed on a pedestal. Every interaction can trigger a surge of euphoria\u2026 while a lack of response is sometimes enough to send morale plummeting. These emotional roller coasters can become exhausting, especially when the connection isn&#39;t clearly reciprocated.<\/p>\n<h2> Why is everyone talking about it today?<\/h2>\n<p> Limerence&#39;s fascination stems largely from social media. On TikTok, in particular, content creators and mental health professionals share videos explaining this psychological mechanism. Many internet users then discover a word that finally puts a name to what they&#39;ve been feeling for a long time.<\/p>\n<p>This visibility also has a reassuring effect: understanding that you&#39;re not &quot;too intense&quot; or &quot;too sensitive&quot; can be beneficial. Strong emotions are part of the human experience and don&#39;t define your worth.<\/p>\n<p>Be careful not to jump to conclusions. Viral content can sometimes transform every heartbreak into a psychological disorder. Putting a name to an experience can help, but it doesn&#39;t replace professional advice when the suffering becomes significant. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" style=\"max-width: 605px; min-width: 325px;\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@suchakylie\/video\/7617918328002153750\" data-video-id=\"7617918328002153750\">\n<section> <a title=\"@suchakylie\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@suchakylie?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@suchakylie<\/a> Have you ever been to Limerence? <a title=\"for you\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/pourtoi?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">#foryou<\/a> <a title=\"psychology\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/psychologie?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">#psychology<\/a> <a title=\"love\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/amour?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">#love<\/a> <a title=\"sociology\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/sociologie?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">#sociology<\/a> <a title=\"relationship\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relation?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">#relationship<\/a> <a title=\"\u266c my dark fantasy dream - rexlity\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/my-dark-fantasy-dream-7409985960036091920?refer=embed\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c my dark fantasy dream - rexlity<\/a><\/section>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> Romantic passion or true suffering?<\/h2>\n<p> Limerence is not an officially recognized illness. In many cases, this condition eventually lessens naturally over time. However, when it becomes persistent or painful, it can affect sleep, concentration, self-esteem, or even social relationships.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/health.clevelandclinic.org\/limerence\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Some specialists also believe<\/a> it can be linked to specific emotional patterns, such as anxious attachment. The key is not to minimize your feelings. Intense emotions deserve to be listened to gently, without guilt or shame.<\/p>\n<h2> How to regain balance?<\/h2>\n<p> To escape an overwhelming sense of unease, experts often recommend creating emotional distance. This can involve limiting interactions, avoiding social media monitoring, or refocusing attention on oneself. Nurturing self-esteem, nurturing passions, strengthening friendships, and surrounding oneself with supportive people also helps to regain stability.<\/p>\n<p>And if this romantic obsession becomes too heavy to bear, consulting a therapist can help to better understand one&#39;s emotional mechanisms and to build more serene love stories, based on reciprocity.<\/p>\n<p>Between fascination, desire, and vulnerability, limerence reminds us above all of one thing: love can sometimes be profoundly transformative. And learning to choose oneself often remains the best starting point.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Do you constantly think about this person, analyze their every message, and does your mood sometimes depend on...","protected":false},"author":8375,"featured_media":443081,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5717],"tags":[97833,97333,97372],"class_list":["post-443078","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-vie-amoureuse","tag-actu","tag-couple","tag-relation"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/M1nh-Art-_-Pexels-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/M1nh-Art-_-Pexels-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/M1nh-Art-_-Pexels.jpg","author":{"name":"Fabienne Baure","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/fabienne_baure-96x96.jpg"},"categories":[{"term_id":5717,"name":"Love life","slug":"vie-amoureuse","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":5885,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<p>The Love life section of The Body Optimist unpacks relationships in all their forms: dating, attraction, life as a couple, jealousy, breakups and being single. Advice from therapists, psychological insights and personal stories help you build healthy, balanced relationships, with no pressure to couple up and no one-size-fits-all model.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Love life section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Dating and attraction<\/strong>: dating apps, first dates, meeting people offline and feeling confident when someone is looking at you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Communication<\/strong>: the five love languages, words that soothe and those that wear a relationship down, and why <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/fexting-why-arguing-by-text-message-often-complicates-things-444706\">arguing by text<\/a> so often backfires.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Toxic relationships<\/strong>: jealousy, possessiveness, love bombing and manipulation, with tips to spot red flags such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/all-my-crazy-exes-red-flag-lovers-minimize-too-often-444547\">the partner for whom all their exes are \u201ccrazy\u201d<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Breakups<\/strong>: grieving a relationship, getting over a letdown, no longer dwelling on your ex, and why some exes move on so fast, explained by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/why-some-exes-quickly-get-involved-in-new-relationships-after-a-breakup-the-taxi-theory-explained-433348\">the taxi theory<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Balance as a couple<\/strong>: keeping your friends, your projects and your own space, even in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Every love story<\/strong>: LGBTQIA+ couples, age gaps, long-distance relationships, chosen singlehood.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you get over a breakup?<\/h2>\n<p>Getting over a breakup takes time, and the pain often feels like grief: sadness, anger, nostalgia and relief can take turns. A few steps help you through it: limit contact with your ex and the urge to check their social media, put away objects that stir up memories, lean on friends and family rather than isolating yourself, get back to your routines (sleep, meals, movement) and reinvest in activities that are yours alone. Writing down what you feel helps put your thoughts in order. If the sadness lasts for weeks and keeps you from functioning day to day, a therapist can help you move forward.<\/p>\n<h2>Our take on love<\/h2>\n<p>We don\u2019t see being in a couple as a goal to reach: single, exclusive, living together without marrying or in a decades-long relationship, every path deserves to be told without judgment. Our articles reject the idea that you need to change your body to be loved, and remind you that excessive jealousy and control are never proof of love. They speak to all couples, straight and LGBTQIA+, and offer guidance without claiming to replace couples therapy or psychological support.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/can-we-really-change-a-narcissist-psychologists-answer-without-hesitation-428646\">Can a narcissist really change?<\/a>: what psychologists answer, and what it means for you.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/these-7-evening-rituals-that-happy-couples-share-431716\">Evening rituals of happy couples<\/a>: seven simple habits to stay close day after day.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/the-777-rule-avoid-routine-in-a-relationship-436391\">The 7-7-7 rule<\/a>: a simple plan to keep routine from taking over your relationship.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/romantic-cliches-in-cinema-have-taught-us-to-believe-446825\">Romantic movie myths<\/a>: the clich\u00e9s about love that films taught us to believe.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>How can you tell if a relationship is toxic?<\/h3>\n<p>A relationship becomes toxic when one partner controls, belittles or isolates the other: checking their phone, constant criticism, emotional blackmail, swinging between passionate declarations and coldness. \u201cNarcissist\u201d gets used loosely online, but narcissistic personality disorder is a clinical diagnosis: focus on behaviors rather than labels. If you\u2019re facing violence, contact a domestic violence hotline or your local emergency services.<\/p>\n<h3>What are the five love languages?<\/h3>\n<p>Developed by American marriage counselor Gary Chapman, the five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. The idea is that each person tends to express and receive affection in a preferred way. It\u2019s a popular framework for avoiding misunderstandings, not a scientifically validated theory.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you meet someone without dating apps?<\/h3>\n<p>Connections often grow out of activities you repeat over time: a sports club, a choir, a community group, volunteering, evening classes. Say yes to invitations, let friends introduce you to their circle, and start conversations around a shared interest. The goal isn\u2019t to impress at all costs but to create more chances to connect.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\">sex and relationship topics<\/a>, pleasure and sexual health in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/sexualite\">Sexuality<\/a>, wedding planning and anniversaries in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/mariage\">Marriage<\/a>, and tools to stand your ground in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\">Self-confidence<\/a>.<\/p>","parent":6135,"count":709,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":5717,"category_count":709,"category_description":"<p>The Love life section of The Body Optimist unpacks relationships in all their forms: dating, attraction, life as a couple, jealousy, breakups and being single. Advice from therapists, psychological insights and personal stories help you build healthy, balanced relationships, with no pressure to couple up and no one-size-fits-all model.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Love life section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Dating and attraction<\/strong>: dating apps, first dates, meeting people offline and feeling confident when someone is looking at you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Communication<\/strong>: the five love languages, words that soothe and those that wear a relationship down, and why <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/fexting-why-arguing-by-text-message-often-complicates-things-444706\">arguing by text<\/a> so often backfires.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Toxic relationships<\/strong>: jealousy, possessiveness, love bombing and manipulation, with tips to spot red flags such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/all-my-crazy-exes-red-flag-lovers-minimize-too-often-444547\">the partner for whom all their exes are \u201ccrazy\u201d<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Breakups<\/strong>: grieving a relationship, getting over a letdown, no longer dwelling on your ex, and why some exes move on so fast, explained by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/why-some-exes-quickly-get-involved-in-new-relationships-after-a-breakup-the-taxi-theory-explained-433348\">the taxi theory<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Balance as a couple<\/strong>: keeping your friends, your projects and your own space, even in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Every love story<\/strong>: LGBTQIA+ couples, age gaps, long-distance relationships, chosen singlehood.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How do you get over a breakup?<\/h2>\n<p>Getting over a breakup takes time, and the pain often feels like grief: sadness, anger, nostalgia and relief can take turns. A few steps help you through it: limit contact with your ex and the urge to check their social media, put away objects that stir up memories, lean on friends and family rather than isolating yourself, get back to your routines (sleep, meals, movement) and reinvest in activities that are yours alone. Writing down what you feel helps put your thoughts in order. If the sadness lasts for weeks and keeps you from functioning day to day, a therapist can help you move forward.<\/p>\n<h2>Our take on love<\/h2>\n<p>We don\u2019t see being in a couple as a goal to reach: single, exclusive, living together without marrying or in a decades-long relationship, every path deserves to be told without judgment. Our articles reject the idea that you need to change your body to be loved, and remind you that excessive jealousy and control are never proof of love. They speak to all couples, straight and LGBTQIA+, and offer guidance without claiming to replace couples therapy or psychological support.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/can-we-really-change-a-narcissist-psychologists-answer-without-hesitation-428646\">Can a narcissist really change?<\/a>: what psychologists answer, and what it means for you.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/these-7-evening-rituals-that-happy-couples-share-431716\">Evening rituals of happy couples<\/a>: seven simple habits to stay close day after day.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/the-777-rule-avoid-routine-in-a-relationship-436391\">The 7-7-7 rule<\/a>: a simple plan to keep routine from taking over your relationship.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\/romantic-cliches-in-cinema-have-taught-us-to-believe-446825\">Romantic movie myths<\/a>: the clich\u00e9s about love that films taught us to believe.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>How can you tell if a relationship is toxic?<\/h3>\n<p>A relationship becomes toxic when one partner controls, belittles or isolates the other: checking their phone, constant criticism, emotional blackmail, swinging between passionate declarations and coldness. \u201cNarcissist\u201d gets used loosely online, but narcissistic personality disorder is a clinical diagnosis: focus on behaviors rather than labels. If you\u2019re facing violence, contact a domestic violence hotline or your local emergency services.<\/p>\n<h3>What are the five love languages?<\/h3>\n<p>Developed by American marriage counselor Gary Chapman, the five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. The idea is that each person tends to express and receive affection in a preferred way. It\u2019s a popular framework for avoiding misunderstandings, not a scientifically validated theory.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you meet someone without dating apps?<\/h3>\n<p>Connections often grow out of activities you repeat over time: a sports club, a choir, a community group, volunteering, evening classes. Say yes to invitations, let friends introduce you to their circle, and start conversations around a shared interest. The goal isn\u2019t to impress at all costs but to create more chances to connect.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\">sex and relationship topics<\/a>, pleasure and sexual health in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/sexualite\">Sexuality<\/a>, wedding planning and anniversaries in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/mariage\">Marriage<\/a>, and tools to stand your ground in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\">Self-confidence<\/a>.<\/p>","cat_name":"Love life","category_nicename":"vie-amoureuse","category_parent":6135}]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/443078","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8375"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=443078"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/443078\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":443194,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/443078\/revisions\/443194"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/443081"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=443078"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=443078"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=443078"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}