As the summer holidays approach, a question arises in many families: should they maintain an educational framework or let the children enjoy total freedom? American influencer Vidya (@queencitytrends), followed by millions of subscribers on TikTok, recently reignited the debate by revealing the rules she applies to her two children during the holidays.<\/p>\n
Vidya Gopalan, known on TikTok as @queencitytrends, shared her vision<\/a> of summer vacation in a video that went viral. A mother of two children, aged 11 and 14, she explains that, for her, summer means relaxation\u2026 but not inactivity. Before detailing her family's routines, she clarifies that it's an organization that works for her household. According to her, keeping children occupied helps "avoid certain problematic behaviors related to boredom and promotes a more balanced daily life."<\/em><\/p>\n The rule that garnered the most attention from internet users concerned screen time. In this family, every minute spent reading earns a one-minute screen time limit. For the mother, reading is essential, especially since many children are gradually abandoning it outside of school.<\/p>\n According to her, this system naturally encourages her children to read more books. Vidya (@queencitytrends) even states that they have already read several books since the start of the holidays. This method has appealed to many internet users, although some point out that reading should primarily be associated with pleasure and discovery.<\/p>\n Screen time isn't the only thing regulated. Children also dedicate about twenty minutes a day to mathematics, spend at least two hours outdoors, and regularly participate in sports. Sleep is also subject to certain rules. Bedtimes are set at specific times, while allowing for extra sleep in the morning when their schedule permits.<\/p>\n For some internet users, this balance between leisure, physical activity, and learning is excellent preparation for the start of the new school year. Others, on the contrary, see it as too heavy a workload during a period that should be dedicated to rest.<\/p>\n Vidya's (@queencitytrends) post quickly divided social media. Between comments praising structured parenting and those denouncing excessive control, the debate extends far beyond the simple context of vacations. While it's important for children to have routines, an educational framework should never become a series of obligations or permanent restrictions. Being a parent also means providing support with kindness, listening to your child's needs, and respecting their pace.<\/p>\n Behind phrases like "strict parenting" or "strict rules," it's sometimes necessary to remain vigilant. Certain practices can slip into forms of excessive control, or even mask toxic or abusive behaviors when they deprive a child of their autonomy, well-being, or right to make mistakes. Holidays also represent a precious time to relax, develop creativity, dream, sometimes be bored, and build one's own experiences. A child doesn't need to be constantly performing or busy to thrive.<\/p>\n Ultimately, the controversy surrounding the rules of American influencer Vidya (@queencitytrends) highlights a simple truth: there is no single model. Each family finds its own balance between freedom and structure. The key is to provide a reassuring, respectful, and caring environment where children can grow up peacefully while fully enjoying their childhood.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"As the summer holidays approach, a question arises in many families: should they maintain an educational framework or...","protected":false},"author":8385,"featured_media":444121,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"disable_msn":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6139],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-444120","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-vie-de-maman"],"image":{"medium":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Cette-maman-partage-les-regles-strictes-quelle-impose-a-ses-enfants-lete-et-les-internautes-sont-d-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Cette-maman-partage-les-regles-strictes-quelle-impose-a-ses-enfants-lete-et-les-internautes-sont-d-500x281.jpg",500,281,true]},"custom":{"td_video":"","featured_image":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Cette-maman-partage-les-regles-strictes-quelle-impose-a-ses-enfants-lete-et-les-internautes-sont-d.jpg","author":{"name":"Julia Perez","avatar":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/cropped-julia_perez-96x96.jpg"},"categories":[{"term_id":6139,"name":"Parenting","slug":"vie-de-maman","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":6311,"taxonomy":"category","description":" The Parenting section of The Body Optimist supports moms, dads and every kind of family through everyday life with kids: raising children, emotions, school, relationships and the mental load. Advice from child development professionals, explainers and personal stories approach parenting without guilt, whatever your family looks like.<\/p>\n Setting boundaries without yelling relies on clarity and consistency more than strictness. Keep instructions short and positive (\u201cwe walk in the hallway\u201d rather than \u201cdon\u2019t run\u201d), get down to your child\u2019s eye level and look at them. Announce transitions ahead of time to head off meltdowns when an activity ends. Name your child\u2019s feeling without giving in on the rule: \u201cYou\u2019re angry because the screen is turning off. I get it, and it\u2019s bath time.\u201d When tension rises, stepping out of the room for a few seconds beats raising your voice. Some parents even sing their instructions<\/a> to keep things light. No parent is perfect: apologizing after you lose your temper also teaches your child how to repair a relationship.<\/p>\n Parenting doesn\u2019t rest on mothers alone: we also talk about dads, co-parents, blended, single-parent and LGBTQ+ families, and people who choose not to have children. There\u2019s no single model or \u201cperfect mom\u201d here: our articles share guidance without making anyone feel guilty. For any concern about a child\u2019s health or development, your pediatrician, family doctor or a child psychologist remains the best person to ask.<\/p>\n Yes. Some fathers go through sadness, irritability or anxiety after a baby arrives, sometimes called the \u201cdaddy blues.\u201d When these symptoms last for several weeks, it may be paternal postpartum depression, a condition recognized by health professionals. Intense fatigue, feeling useless or withdrawing from others are warning signs: talking to a doctor is the first step toward getting support.<\/p>\n Positive parenting, close to what is often called gentle parenting, guides children through listening, explanation and encouragement rather than punishment, yelling or humiliation. It isn\u2019t the same as being permissive: rules still exist, but they\u2019re set with respect. A growing number of countries have also banned corporal punishment of children, spanking included.<\/p>\n Several signs can raise concern: refusing to go to school, repeated stomachaches or headaches in the morning, slipping grades, damaged or missing belongings, isolation, trouble sleeping, mood changes after using their phone. Start the conversation calmly, without dramatizing, then contact the school. Many countries also have helplines dedicated to bullying and cyberbullying.<\/p>\n Keep exploring: all our psychology topics<\/a> on emotions, Self-confidence<\/a> to find your footing again after a baby arrives, Body positive<\/a> to see your body with kindness, and Pregnancy<\/a> for the months before birth.<\/p>","parent":6138,"count":705,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":6139,"category_count":705,"category_description":" The Parenting section of The Body Optimist supports moms, dads and every kind of family through everyday life with kids: raising children, emotions, school, relationships and the mental load. Advice from child development professionals, explainers and personal stories approach parenting without guilt, whatever your family looks like.<\/p>\n Setting boundaries without yelling relies on clarity and consistency more than strictness. Keep instructions short and positive (\u201cwe walk in the hallway\u201d rather than \u201cdon\u2019t run\u201d), get down to your child\u2019s eye level and look at them. Announce transitions ahead of time to head off meltdowns when an activity ends. Name your child\u2019s feeling without giving in on the rule: \u201cYou\u2019re angry because the screen is turning off. I get it, and it\u2019s bath time.\u201d When tension rises, stepping out of the room for a few seconds beats raising your voice. Some parents even sing their instructions<\/a> to keep things light. No parent is perfect: apologizing after you lose your temper also teaches your child how to repair a relationship.<\/p>\n Parenting doesn\u2019t rest on mothers alone: we also talk about dads, co-parents, blended, single-parent and LGBTQ+ families, and people who choose not to have children. There\u2019s no single model or \u201cperfect mom\u201d here: our articles share guidance without making anyone feel guilty. 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A growing number of countries have also banned corporal punishment of children, spanking included.<\/p>\n Several signs can raise concern: refusing to go to school, repeated stomachaches or headaches in the morning, slipping grades, damaged or missing belongings, isolation, trouble sleeping, mood changes after using their phone. Start the conversation calmly, without dramatizing, then contact the school. 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