{"id":444440,"date":"2026-07-23T11:57:21","date_gmt":"2026-07-23T09:57:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=444440"},"modified":"2026-07-23T11:57:21","modified_gmt":"2026-07-23T09:57:21","slug":"jugee-trop-moche-elle-revient-remarques-longtemps-pese-elle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/judged-too-ugly-she-returns-remarks-that-weigh-heavily-on-her-444440","title":{"rendered":"Judged &quot;too ugly,&quot; she reflects on the remarks that weighed on her for a long time."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For years, she heard words that could have made her doubt herself. On TikTok, @ex0machina1 chose to tell her story with sincerity, navigating between past hurts and self-affirmation. Her testimony reminds us of something essential: a person&#39;s worth is never defined by their appearance or relationship status.<\/p>\n<h2> Words that leave a mark from childhood<\/h2>\n<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@ergo0proxy1\/video\/7512536441017191710\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">In a video<\/a> that has gone viral, @ex0machina1 reflects on a time when her appearance was regularly criticized. She explains that she grew up with the label of &quot;ugly&quot; that some people allegedly gave her, along with particularly harsh comments about her romantic future.<\/p>\n<p>According to her account, she was even led to believe that she would never experience love and would end up alone. These are difficult words to hear when you&#39;re still developing, and they can have a lasting impact on how you see yourself. Over time, however, @ex0machina1 decided not to let these judgments define her story. Rather than constantly trying to meet others&#39; expectations, she chose to focus on what truly mattered to her: her projects, her passions, and her own personal growth.<\/p>\n<h2> To build a life that reflects her<\/h2>\n<p> Today, as she approaches her 26th birthday, her life is quite different from what some had imagined for her. Single, @ex0machina says she is happy and completely satisfied with the life she has built. Her journey shows that a fulfilling life doesn&#39;t depend on a single model.<\/p>\n<p>Contrary to popular belief, finding balance doesn&#39;t necessarily require a romantic relationship or validation from others. By choosing not to make a couple the center of her life, @ex0machina1 asserts an important freedom: the freedom to grow, explore her desires, and love herself without waiting for someone else to provide her with some form of recognition. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/DOt-5GrDl82\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\"> View this post on Instagram <\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"> <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/DOt-5GrDl82\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by \u22c6\u207a\u208a\u22c6 \u263e \ud83d\udc08\u200d\u2b1b \ud81a\udd13 \u22c6\u207a\u208a\u22c6 (@virtualanamoly)<\/a> <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h2> The weight of contradictory injunctions<\/h2>\n<p> One of the most striking aspects of her story lies in the paradox she highlights. For a long time, some people reportedly told her she would be alone because she didn&#39;t conform to expected beauty standards. Today, these same critics seem to be reproaching her for\u2026 actually being alone.<\/p>\n<p>@ex0machina1 thus highlights a common contradiction: no matter what they do, some women sometimes feel constantly judged. &quot;Too much of this,&quot; &quot;not enough of that&quot;\u2014whether in a relationship or single, they can find themselves facing impossible expectations. Her message sheds light on this constant pressure surrounding appearance and romantic relationships. Rather than trying to convince those who judge her, @ex0machina1 now chooses to live according to her own criteria for happiness.<\/p>\n<h2> A statement that resonates<\/h2>\n<p> If her story has garnered so much attention, it&#39;s undoubtedly because it resonates with the experiences of many people. Many have already faced comments about their appearance, their lifestyle, or their personal choices. Through her story, @ex0machina1 reminds us that words can leave a mark, but they shouldn&#39;t become the sole definition of who we are.<\/p>\n<p>Her journey shows that it&#39;s possible to regain confidence, reconnect with one&#39;s strengths, and build a more positive relationship with one&#39;s image. Ultimately, her story carries a body-positive and liberating message: every person deserves to feel legitimate, valued, and respected, regardless of societal standards.<\/p>\n<p>By transforming hurtful remarks into reflections on self-acceptance, @ex0machina1 offers a new interpretation of her story. She isn&#39;t trying to prove she deserves to be loved; she&#39;s simply affirming that she already deserves to love herself. Happiness isn&#39;t found in conforming to others&#39; expectations, but in the ability to move forward in accordance with one&#39;s own truth.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"For years, she heard words that could have made her doubt herself. 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Practical exercises, clear explanations of patterns like imposter syndrome and stories from people who learned to speak up: everything you need to move forward without waiting to \u201cearn\u201d the right to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Self-confidence section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Exercises<\/strong>: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/small-challenges-believe-more-in-your-abilities-446961\">small challenges that help you believe in your abilities<\/a> and habits to keep that confidence going over time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Patterns to outsmart<\/strong>: imposter syndrome, feelings of inferiority, the urge to apologize constantly, trouble saying no.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Emotions<\/strong>: high sensitivity, intense feelings, negative thoughts and an inner critic that\u2019s far too harsh.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Other people\u2019s eyes<\/strong>: handling comments about your weight, braving the pool or group photos, quitting the comparison game.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Personal stories<\/strong>: women and men who regained their confidence after harassment, illness or disability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How can you build self-confidence day to day?<\/h2>\n<p>Self-confidence grows mostly through action: every small win is concrete proof of what you can do, far more convincing than a positive affirmation repeated in the mirror. A few strategies psychologists often recommend:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set modest but regular challenges, then write down what you accomplished.<\/li>\n<li>Notice your inner critic and ask yourself whether you\u2019d ever talk to a friend that way.<\/li>\n<li>Swap automatic apologies for thanks (\u201cthanks for your patience\u201d instead of \u201csorry I\u2019m late\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Accept a compliment with a simple thank-you, without downplaying it.<\/li>\n<li>Limit comparisons, especially on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Our approach to self-confidence<\/h2>\n<p>Here, self-confidence isn\u2019t reserved for people who are thin, young or \u201cperfect\u201d: it doesn\u2019t have to wait for weight loss or for some supposed flaw to be fixed. Our articles favor concrete tools over promises of overnight transformation, and remind you that low self-esteem isn\u2019t a personal failure. When distress sets in (anxiety, dark thoughts, isolation), a psychologist or therapist can support you: our content is here to inform, not to replace professional care.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/imposter-syndrome-an-invisible-mechanism-undermining-confidence-434010\">Imposter syndrome explained<\/a>: understanding the mechanism that makes you doubt your own achievements.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/saying-yes-to-please-others-a-psychologist-explains-why-you-cant-set-boundaries-429884\">Why you struggle to set boundaries<\/a>: a psychologist decodes the habit of saying yes just to please.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/youre-making-too-many-excuses-heres-what-it-could-reveal-431077\">Apologizing too much<\/a>: what this reflex may reveal, and how to assert yourself without aggression.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/believing-oneself-to-be-talentless-how-to-appease-that-critical-little-voice-436991\">Quieting your inner critic<\/a>: what to do when you\u2019re convinced you have no talent.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/harassed-by-comments-about-her-weight-she-explains-how-she-regained-her-confidence-445030\">Rebuilding confidence after weight comments<\/a>: one woman explains how she stopped letting other people\u2019s remarks define her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What\u2019s the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem?<\/h3>\n<p>Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself as a person; self-confidence is the belief that you can act and succeed in a given situation. You can feel competent at work while judging yourself harshly as a person. Both can be built, often together, through action and self-compassion.<\/p>\n<h3>What is imposter syndrome?<\/h3>\n<p>Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you don\u2019t deserve your success, along with the fear of being \u201cfound out.\u201d First described by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, who called it the impostor phenomenon, it isn\u2019t a mental illness but a common thought pattern, including among highly competent people. Listing your achievements objectively and talking about it helps defuse it.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you help a friend who lacks self-confidence?<\/h3>\n<p>Listen without minimizing what she feels, point out specific qualities rather than vague compliments, encourage her to try things without doing them for her, and avoid comparisons. If her distress lasts or gets worse, gently encourage her to talk to a mental health professional.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\">psychology topics<\/a>, learn to see your body differently with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\">Body positive<\/a>, explore family life in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\">Parenting<\/a>, and build healthier relationships in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\">Love life<\/a>.<\/p>","parent":6138,"count":380,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":1784,"category_count":380,"category_description":"<p>The Self-confidence section of The Body Optimist helps you build self-esteem day by day, whatever your body, age or background. Practical exercises, clear explanations of patterns like imposter syndrome and stories from people who learned to speak up: everything you need to move forward without waiting to \u201cearn\u201d the right to feel good about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Self-confidence section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Exercises<\/strong>: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/small-challenges-believe-more-in-your-abilities-446961\">small challenges that help you believe in your abilities<\/a> and habits to keep that confidence going over time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Patterns to outsmart<\/strong>: imposter syndrome, feelings of inferiority, the urge to apologize constantly, trouble saying no.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Emotions<\/strong>: high sensitivity, intense feelings, negative thoughts and an inner critic that\u2019s far too harsh.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Other people\u2019s eyes<\/strong>: handling comments about your weight, braving the pool or group photos, quitting the comparison game.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Personal stories<\/strong>: women and men who regained their confidence after harassment, illness or disability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How can you build self-confidence day to day?<\/h2>\n<p>Self-confidence grows mostly through action: every small win is concrete proof of what you can do, far more convincing than a positive affirmation repeated in the mirror. A few strategies psychologists often recommend:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set modest but regular challenges, then write down what you accomplished.<\/li>\n<li>Notice your inner critic and ask yourself whether you\u2019d ever talk to a friend that way.<\/li>\n<li>Swap automatic apologies for thanks (\u201cthanks for your patience\u201d instead of \u201csorry I\u2019m late\u201d).<\/li>\n<li>Accept a compliment with a simple thank-you, without downplaying it.<\/li>\n<li>Limit comparisons, especially on social media.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Our approach to self-confidence<\/h2>\n<p>Here, self-confidence isn\u2019t reserved for people who are thin, young or \u201cperfect\u201d: it doesn\u2019t have to wait for weight loss or for some supposed flaw to be fixed. Our articles favor concrete tools over promises of overnight transformation, and remind you that low self-esteem isn\u2019t a personal failure. When distress sets in (anxiety, dark thoughts, isolation), a psychologist or therapist can support you: our content is here to inform, not to replace professional care.<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/imposter-syndrome-an-invisible-mechanism-undermining-confidence-434010\">Imposter syndrome explained<\/a>: understanding the mechanism that makes you doubt your own achievements.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/saying-yes-to-please-others-a-psychologist-explains-why-you-cant-set-boundaries-429884\">Why you struggle to set boundaries<\/a>: a psychologist decodes the habit of saying yes just to please.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/youre-making-too-many-excuses-heres-what-it-could-reveal-431077\">Apologizing too much<\/a>: what this reflex may reveal, and how to assert yourself without aggression.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/believing-oneself-to-be-talentless-how-to-appease-that-critical-little-voice-436991\">Quieting your inner critic<\/a>: what to do when you\u2019re convinced you have no talent.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\/harassed-by-comments-about-her-weight-she-explains-how-she-regained-her-confidence-445030\">Rebuilding confidence after weight comments<\/a>: one woman explains how she stopped letting other people\u2019s remarks define her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>What\u2019s the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem?<\/h3>\n<p>Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself as a person; self-confidence is the belief that you can act and succeed in a given situation. You can feel competent at work while judging yourself harshly as a person. Both can be built, often together, through action and self-compassion.<\/p>\n<h3>What is imposter syndrome?<\/h3>\n<p>Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you don\u2019t deserve your success, along with the fear of being \u201cfound out.\u201d First described by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, who called it the impostor phenomenon, it isn\u2019t a mental illness but a common thought pattern, including among highly competent people. Listing your achievements objectively and talking about it helps defuse it.<\/p>\n<h3>How can you help a friend who lacks self-confidence?<\/h3>\n<p>Listen without minimizing what she feels, point out specific qualities rather than vague compliments, encourage her to try things without doing them for her, and avoid comparisons. If her distress lasts or gets worse, gently encourage her to talk to a mental health professional.<\/p>\n<p>Keep exploring: find all our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\">psychology topics<\/a>, learn to see your body differently with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\">Body positive<\/a>, explore family life in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/vie-de-maman\">Parenting<\/a>, and build healthier relationships in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/sexo\/vie-amoureuse\">Love life<\/a>.<\/p>","cat_name":"Self-confidence","category_nicename":"confiance-en-soi","category_parent":6138}]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/444440","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8264"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=444440"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/444440\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":446366,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/444440\/revisions\/446366"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/444417"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=444440"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=444440"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=444440"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}