{"id":445607,"date":"2026-07-23T16:10:12","date_gmt":"2026-07-23T14:10:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/?p=445607"},"modified":"2026-07-23T16:10:12","modified_gmt":"2026-07-23T14:10:12","slug":"elle-invite-femmes-changer-regard-corps","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/she-invites-women-to-change-their-perspective-on-their-bodies-445607","title":{"rendered":"&quot;It&#39;s normal to have more curves as you get older&quot;: she encourages women to change their perspective on their bodies"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Growing up, aging, seeing your body change\u2026 what if all of this was simply normal? That&#39;s the message content creator Bethany Cook (@bethanycook_) wants to convey through a video that has gone viral. A welcome reminder in a society where physical changes are still too often perceived as a &quot;problem to be fixed.&quot;<\/p>\n<h2> A body is not meant to remain static.<\/h2>\n<p> On TikTok, content creator Bethany Cook shared <a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@_bethanycook\/video\/7503892082440817942\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a video<\/a> with a message that was as simple as it was powerful: it&#39;s normal to have more curves as you get older. In just a few words, she challenges a deeply ingrained idea: that the adult body should look like the one we had at 18.<\/p>\n<p>For many women, seeing their figure change over time is accompanied by guilt. Yet, the body changes throughout life. Hormones, pregnancies, stress, lifestyle habits, medical treatments, or simply the passing years can influence weight and body shape. And that&#39;s perfectly normal.<\/p>\n<h2> &quot;You didn&#39;t let yourself go.&quot;<\/h2>\n<p> Alongside her video, Bethany Cook (@bethanycook_) shared a comforting message with her community. She reminded them that aging also means entering a new phase of life, and that this can naturally be accompanied by physical changes. Behind this statement lies a crucial point: gaining weight doesn&#39;t mean you&#39;ve &quot;let yourself go.&quot; This expression, often used to judge women, perpetuates the idea that a fuller body is necessarily the result of a lack of willpower. However, the reality is far more complex.<\/p>\n<h2> Being curvy or fat is not a failure<\/h2>\n<p> The word &quot;fat&quot; is not an insult. It&#39;s a descriptive adjective, just like &quot;tall,&quot; &quot;short,&quot; or &quot;blond.&quot; Being curvy or fat, regardless of age, is nothing to be ashamed of. Over the years, some people gain weight. Others lose it. Some maintain the same figure their entire lives, while others see their bodies change several times.<\/p>\n<p>All these trajectories are valid. The idea isn&#39;t to say that &quot;everyone gains weight as they age,&quot; but to remind people that it can happen\u2026 and that it&#39;s perfectly okay. Your worth depends neither on the number on a scale nor on your clothing size.<\/p>\n<h2> A message that makes you feel good<\/h2>\n<p> Unsurprisingly, Bethany Cook&#39;s (@bethanycook_) post resonated with many online. Many explained that they recognized themselves in her words, after years of comparing their adult bodies to their teenage selves. This kind of discourse addresses a real need: the need to see more honest and compassionate representations of bodies. Beauty standards often remain fixated on a young, thin, and supposedly unchanging figure, while the human body is, by definition, constantly evolving. <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/DYW6i0pjPtk\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\"> View this post on Instagram <\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"> <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/DYW6i0pjPtk\/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by Bethany Cook (@bethanycook_)<\/a> <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>In short, the key takeaway is to remember that no body is obligated to remain the same over the decades. Bethany Cook&#39;s (@bethanycook_) message ultimately encourages us to replace judgment with kindness. Growing older is a privilege, and the changes that accompany this stage of life shouldn&#39;t be seen as a failure. Regardless of your age, weight, or body type, your body deserves respect.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Growing up, aging, seeing your body change\u2026 what if all of this was simply normal? 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Portraits, personal stories and explainers question beauty standards to help you feel more at peace with your appearance, with no pressure to lose weight or to love yourself no matter what.<\/p>\n<h2>What you\u2019ll find in the Body positive section<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Beauty standards<\/strong>: stretch marks, cellulite, hip dips, body hair and wrinkles, demystified, as in our story on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/hip-dips-heres-why-hollow-hips-are-an-asset-not-a-flaw-428176\">hip dips, a natural feature rather than a flaw<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Portraits<\/strong>: plus-size models, athletes, women over sixty and disabled people who are changing who gets seen.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bodies and society<\/strong>: fashion that doesn\u2019t cater to every size, the constant scrutiny of women\u2019s bellies, echoing our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/societe\/grossophobie\">Fatphobia<\/a> section.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Self-acceptance<\/strong>: quotes, exercises and stories to make peace with your reflection, alongside our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/confiance-en-soi\">Self-confidence<\/a> section.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>What is body positivity and where does it come from?<\/h2>\n<p>Body positivity is a movement built on the idea that every body deserves respect and representation, regardless of size, skin color, age, gender or disability. Its roots lie in the fat acceptance movement, which emerged in the United States in the late 1960s to fight weight discrimination. The term later took off on social media, at the risk of being co-opted by brands and refocused on bodies close to the norm. Going back to its activist origins is a reminder that it\u2019s not only about \u201cloving yourself\u201d but also about fighting fatphobia.<\/p>\n<h2>Body positivity vs. body neutrality: what\u2019s the difference?<\/h2>\n<p>Body neutrality takes appearance out of the spotlight: instead of striving to love your body, you respect it for what it lets you do, such as walking, dancing or resting. It suits people for whom the pressure to \u201clove yourself\u201d adds stress, or whose relationship with their body has been shaped by illness or an eating disorder. The two approaches aren\u2019t opposites. On tough days, a few habits help: unfollow accounts that make you feel guilty, wear clothes that fit the body you have today, and thank your body for something it did rather than judging how it looks. Here\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/why-body-neutrality-is-increasingly-appealing-to-women-446685\">why body neutrality appeals to more and more women<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>Our commitment<\/h2>\n<p>Accepting all bodies has been at the heart of our editorial line since our beginnings in plus-size fashion. We show bodies that are rarely seen without reducing them to a \u201cbefore and after\u201d or a heroic feat, and we reject any message that equates health with thinness. Our portraits let people speak for themselves, and never describe anyone as a \u201cflaw to fix.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2>Where to start<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/she-is-told-to-correct-her-asymmetrical-chest-to-choose-to-love-her-as-she-is-428203\">Embracing asymmetrical breasts<\/a>: the story of a woman who was told to \u201ccorrect\u201d her chest and chose not to.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/nose-stomach-arms-how-complexes-shape-life-choices-432126\">How body insecurities shape our choices<\/a>: nose, belly, arms, and the decisions we make around them.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/this-plus-size-model-denounces-the-silent-demise-of-inclusive-fashion-431725\">The quiet retreat of inclusive fashion<\/a>: a plus-size model calls out the industry for leaving bigger bodies behind.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/taboos-surrounding-stretch-marks-model-kelly-brook-decides-to-speak-out-428667\">Breaking the stretch mark taboo<\/a>: why one model decided to speak openly about hers.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/im-not-a-fit-girl-she-challenges-preconceived-ideas-about-the-athletic-body-447083\">Athletic bodies come in every shape<\/a>: a woman who challenges assumptions about what a sporty body looks like.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Frequently asked questions<\/h2>\n<h3>Does accepting your body mean neglecting your health?<\/h3>\n<p>No. The movement challenges the idea that thinness proves good health and that fat people deserve less respect or care. 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Its roots lie in the fat acceptance movement, which emerged in the United States in the late 1960s to fight weight discrimination. The term later took off on social media, at the risk of being co-opted by brands and refocused on bodies close to the norm. Going back to its activist origins is a reminder that it\u2019s not only about \u201cloving yourself\u201d but also about fighting fatphobia.<\/p>\n<h2>Body positivity vs. body neutrality: what\u2019s the difference?<\/h2>\n<p>Body neutrality takes appearance out of the spotlight: instead of striving to love your body, you respect it for what it lets you do, such as walking, dancing or resting. It suits people for whom the pressure to \u201clove yourself\u201d adds stress, or whose relationship with their body has been shaped by illness or an eating disorder. The two approaches aren\u2019t opposites. On tough days, a few habits help: unfollow accounts that make you feel guilty, wear clothes that fit the body you have today, and thank your body for something it did rather than judging how it looks. Here\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ma-grande-taille.com\/en\/psycho\/bodypositive\/why-body-neutrality-is-increasingly-appealing-to-women-446685\">why body neutrality appeals to more and more women<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>Our commitment<\/h2>\n<p>Accepting all bodies has been at the heart of our editorial line since our beginnings in plus-size fashion. We show bodies that are rarely seen without reducing them to a \u201cbefore and after\u201d or a heroic feat, and we reject any message that equates health with thinness. 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