Cette maman de 5 enfants publie une photo de son ventre pour montrer la beauté de la maternité

On s’en rend compte lorsqu’on suit certaines starlettes de télé-réalité ou bien certaines émissions à la télé. À peine ont-elles accouché que les mamans n’ont qu’un seul souhait : retrouver leur ligne d’antan et leur ventre plat pré maternité. Comment les en blâmer quand la société nous oblige à attaquer un régime quelques heures seulement après avoir donné naissance ?! On ferait presque culpabiliser les mères qui ne se sentent « pas si mal » dans leur nouveau corps. Mais ce n’est pas le cas de la blogueuse lifestyle Brenda. Regardez plutôt.

Maternité : « Hey maman, tu es magnifique »

C’est la photo que vous apercevez ci-dessous qui a créé le buzz. Brenda, maman de cinq enfants, légende simplement :

« J’ai pris cette photo trois mois seulement après l’accouchement et je luttais contre une forme légère de ppd et de ppa (dépression post-partum, ndlr).  Je n’étais pas satisfaite de l’apparence de mon corps et je ne me sentais pas à l’aise dedans. J’étais concentrée sur l’émotion et non sur la réalité.

La réalité est que mon corps est fort et beau. Et le vôtre aussi ! J’ai pris cette photo pour me rappeler que peu importe à quoi ressemble notre corps en ce moment présent – Il est temps de célébrer notre propre beauté ! Nous sommes effrayées, mais merveilleusement faites. Peu importe notre forme, notre taille ou notre forme, VOUS ETES BELLES ! »

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I took this photo just three months postpartum and I was struggling with a mild form of ppd and ppa I wasn’t happy about what my body looked like and I didn’t feel comfortable being in it. I was focused on emotion and not reality. The reality is that my body is strong and beautiful. And so is yours! I took this photo to remind myself that it doesn’t matter what our bodies look like at this present moment – It’s time to celebrate our own beauty! We are fearfully and wonderfully made. No matter our shape, size, or form, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! #mywishformoms #this_is_postpartum #postpartumgoals

A post shared by Brenda Rivera Stearns (@she_plusfive) on Jan 17, 2019 at 11:03am PST

D’ailleurs, son compte Instagram regorge de photos body positives dans lesquelles elle n’hésite pas à afficher son corps post-grossesse auprès de toute sa petite famille. Qu’y a-t-il de plus naturel que le corps d’une femme qui a donné la vie ? La maternité nous va si bien…

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⁣ ✨Most liked photo of 2019✨⁣ ⁣ ⁣ “In response to the hateful messages I got about my belly photo, I’ve been empowered to share this message louder!⁣ ⁣ Yes, I do I have a valley of lines mapped across my belly, mountains of stretched skin left over my mid section, lightning bolts on my sides and back, all signs that I carried life inside of me…. five times! ⁣ I also have a cesarean scar reminding me that my belly was cut open twice!⁣ ⁣ My body is amazing.⁣ My body is beautiful.⁣ My body is powerful.⁣ My body is strong.⁣ My body is capable.⁣ My body made me a mother.⁣ My body grew a human inside. ⁣ Not everybody has that privilege.⁣ ⁣ So while society wants to sit behind a screen and label us as flawed, I am here to remind myself and all of you that to our children we are perfect. They see behind the stretched out skin, marks, and lines. They see us for who we truly are. They know our hearts and love us unconditionally. And that is all that matters. ?”⁣

A post shared by Brenda Rivera Stearns (@she_plusfive) on Dec 31, 2019 at 4:12pm PST

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⁣⁣ I had a postpartum photo shared at an online magazine recently, and like any photo that gets shared outside this community, it comes with floods of comments from people who must hate postpartum bodies.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I get told that “nobody wants to see this” “it’s disgusting” “she didn’t take care of herself” and a brand new one (I think it’s hilarious btw) “she had babies too old that’s why she’s so wrinkled!” ? I’m 32 and I had my first child at 24⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I could go on and on… but let me tell you my TOP THREE reasons of why I choose to post pictures of my postpartum body:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 1️⃣Because I believe it’s important to normalize beauty in its many forms, shapes, colors, and sizes. If this picture makes another human feel more “normal” and like maybe they’re beautiful too then I’ve done my job and my heart is full!⁣⁣ ⁣ 2️⃣Because I personally love the human body, it’s strength, and it’s ability to change, to stretch, and to heal. Seeing my cesarean scar, my belly wrinkles, and stretch marks, makes me feel empowered!⁣⁣ ⁣ 3️⃣Because it’s my Instagram and I can post whatever I want! ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ?✌?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣ ⁣#papayacommunity

A post shared by Brenda Rivera Stearns (@she_plusfive) on Dec 4, 2019 at 12:13pm PST

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In 2011, when Victoria was born via emergency cesarean I was so drugged and so drained that my milk didn’t come in for days! We struggled so much to latch because she had a lip tie that we never got revised because I never even knew that was a thing. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ We supplemented with formula and I remember feeling SO SO guilty. I couldn’t use my own breasts to provide her with nourishment. I put so much pressure on myself, so many expectations as a new mom that I couldn’t reach and I was left feeling defeated, lost, and alone. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Have you ever felt that way?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Everyone talks about “breast is best” and while it’s true in a way there was so much pressure to do something beyond my ability. No one talked about their struggles. Breastfeeding was pictured as this perfect bond that should come so naturally for mom and baby.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Breastfeeding didn’t work for us. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I remember sitting on the couch crying my eyes out because my nipples were bleeding and I was in so much pain. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I was very disappointed in myself. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ The first four months of her life we used formula. And while I hate to admit it, I felt so embarrassed about our choice to supplement. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I’ve learnt and grown so much since. ⁣⁣ I’ve realized that what we feed our babies isn’t what makes us a good mother. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Whether we use breast or bottle, breastmilk or formula, your breast or a wet nurse, your breastmilk or donated milk, organic formula or generic brand…. it is irrelevant! because no one has the same story as you do! No one knows the struggles you’ve been through to come to this decision for you and your child. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ We used formula.⁣⁣ We breastfeed.⁣⁣ We tandem nursed.⁣⁣ And as of last week I can say we pumped and bottle-fed.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And guess what, the love I have for my children didn’t change because of what I fed them. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It is my hope that you will never feel embarrassed for the choice to feed your child. Never feel the need to defend your decision. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Be proud of yourself mama, ⁣⁣ you’re doing an amazing job! ⁣⁣ ⁣ ? ⁣#papayacommunity

A post shared by Brenda Rivera Stearns (@she_plusfive) on Nov 6, 2019 at 12:14pm PST

Perdre du poids, remodeler son corps, son ventre est un choix PERSONNEL. Il ne devrait en aucun cas être dicté par les autres. Prenez de la distance vis-à-vis du regard des autres, il n’y a que VOTRE avis qui compte. Après tout, c’est vous qui avez donné la vie et avez porté cet enfant neuf mois dans votre ventre.

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I’ve got my day old braids ✓ tired puffy eyes ✓ wearing the same jeans for three days in a row ✓ my wrinkled mom belly ✓ and feeling so incredibly happy in my own skin! #freeto _ And let me tell you something: our scarred bodies and wrinkled tummies are worthy of this space too! Don’t ever let anyone or anything make you feel disqualified! You’re welcome here too! You belong! This is YOUR space! _ This is NORMAL This is beautiful… and so are YOU!! #mywishformoms #this_is_postpartum

A post shared by Brenda Rivera Stearns (@she_plusfive) on Mar 26, 2019 at 12:21pm PDT

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10 things you might not know about us:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⓵ We are a multicultural family. I was born and raised in Mexico and my husband is from the USA.⁣⁣ ⓶ We knew each other for six months before we got married.⁣⁣ ⓷ We didn’t have a honeymoon and we’ve never gone on a trip just hubby and I. Hopefully we can change this some day.⁣⁣ ⓸ We have lived in this house for 8 years. ⁣⁣ ⓹ I have always prayed for twins with each pregnancy.⁣⁣ ⓺ We homeschool our kids.⁣⁣ ⓻ We go to church on Saturday and celebrate the Seventh-Day Sabbath.⁣⁣ ⓼ We are not vegan, but rather enjoy to eat wholesome organic foods that come from the earth. ⁣⁣ ⓽ We don’t drink alcoholic beverages.⁣⁣ ⓾ We most definitely want to have more kids. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Your turn – ⁣ Tell us one thing we might not know about you!! ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ??Join me today at 5pm est for a Q&A live!! ⁣ ______________________________________⁣ ⁣ ⁣ 10 cosas que quizás no sepas sobre nosotros:⁣ ⁣ ⓵ Somos una familia multicultural. Nací y crecí en México y mi esposo es de los Estados Unidos.⁣ ⓶ Nos conocimos seis meses antes de casarnos.⁣ ⓷ No tuvimos luna de miel y nunca hemos ido de viaje los dos solos a ningún lado. Espero cambiar esto algún día.⁣ ⓸ Hemos vivido en esta casa por casi 8 años.⁣ ⓹ Siempre he rezado por gemelos con cada embarazo.⁣ ⓺ Educamos en casa a nuestros hijos.⁣ ⓻ Vamos a la iglesia los sábados.⁣ ⓼ No somos veganos, sino que disfrutamos comer alimentos saludables y orgánicos que provienen de la tierra.⁣ ⓽ No tomamos bebidas alcohólicas.⁣ ⓾ Definitivamente queremos tener más hijos.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Tu turno: ¡cuéntanos algo que quizás no sepamos de ti!⁣ ⁣ ⁣

A post shared by Brenda Rivera Stearns (@she_plusfive) on May 21, 2020 at 12:05pm PDT

Ne culpabilisez pas de ne pas vouloir changer votre apparence après l’accouchement. La maternité vous rend belle ! On vous attend sur le forum, dans la rubrique Confiance en soi pour en discuter…