Cette mère de triplés partage l’évolution de son ventre

Les photos du ventre de Maria, jeune maman norvégienne d’un petit garçon et de triplés, ont fait le tour du monde. Deux ans après la naissance de ses triplés, la jeune femme poste des photos de son ventre. Body positive, elle rassemble aujourd’hui plus de 360 000 abonnés sur son compte Instagram. Son but ? Lever le tabou autour du corps post-partum et permettre aux femmes de reprendre le contrôle. On vous la présente.

Une grossesse peu ordinaire

On le sait, une grossesse multiple est toujours un événement à risque. Déjà lorsqu’il s’agit de jumeaux… Mais imaginez lorsqu’on parle de triplés. Fort heureusement, tout s’est bien passé pour Maria qui a donné naissance à Iben, Filip et Agnès le 12 septembre 2018.

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September 12 ~ 24 months since Iben, Filip and Agnes were born. 👶🏼👶🏼👶🏼⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ This will be my last monthly picture, because it will be kind of silly continuing counting months now. 😄 But I love that I have the past 24 updates, and I will definitly make a photo album out of both the photos and texts. ❤️❤️❤️⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Not much has changed since last month, except for them getting even more cheeky and even less cooperative. 😅 Getting them dressed often feels like a wrestling match, and they are pretty mischievous. But luckily they are still very cuddly and adorable as well, like when they lean their heads towards us while sitting at the dining table, so that we can give them a kiss or hug. And they always do it at the same time. 😻😻😻⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Anders and I are so proud of them, and so happy to see that they develop just as they are supposed to, even though they were born premature. They are all three active, robust and social toddlers, with a little head start when it comes to interaction and play because of always being in a crew with each other and having a big brother to look up to. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Happy birthday Iben, Filip and Agnes! We love you very, very, very much. 😘😘😘⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣⁣ [Annonce] ⁣⁣Clothes:⁣⁣ Iben – Dress from @birla_baby (Gift)⁣⁣ Filip – Suit from H&M (From when Mikael was little)⁣⁣ Agnes – Dress from @christinarohde_ (Gift)

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Une belle histoire qu’elle a souhaité raconter à travers un compte Instagram. Elle a ainsi partagé très régulièrement des photos d’évolution de son ventre de maman. Et lorsqu’il héberge trois bébés, autant vous dire qu’il finit par prendre de la place !

Elle a documenté son parcours. Expliqué les obstacles rencontrés et décrit sa relation avec son corps qui se transforme. Une histoire qui a visiblement plu aux internautes puisque ses photos de grossesse ont fait le tour du monde.

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#flashbackfriday – 8 days from today the trio will be 2 years, and I felt like reposting this collage. Isn’t it amazing to see how much my belly grew? And it became even bigger during the last week before I gave birth at 35 weeks and 2 days. ⁣ ⁣ I am very happy we did these weekly photoshoots throughout the pregnancy. I find the pictures really beautiful, and it will be so lovely for the trio to have when they grow older. The pictures were originally intended for our private photo album, but after seeing the pictures put together, I thought it made for a really good documentation of a triplet pregnancy! Something I had not seen anywhere else. The hospital did not have any specific information at all for parents expecting triplets. Instagram was my primary source of information. ⁣ ⁣ After I published this collage in September 2018, it was spread on social media and was featured in several articles around the world. But what I found especially cool was being contacted by numerous professors at midwifery schools asking for permission to use the picture in their lectures. ⁣ ⁣ In hindsight the only thing I regret a little is that we took some of the last pictures right after I had applied oil on my belly – it would have been even better without that greasy shine. Well well – I still love this collage. ⁣ ⁣ It was truly a miracle that I was able to carry them for that long, and crazy to see how far out my belly stretched and how little I put on elsewhere on the body. From behind you could not even see that I was pregnant! I made several people on the street jump a little when I turned around, and I still remember how people stared at me. But OMG, the last months were SO hard that I barely walked at all. Being pregnant with triplets was really an experience out of the ordinary, that is for sure. ⁣ ⁣ ❤️❤️❤️

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Yesterday it was 2 years since I posted my first postpartum picture 1 week after the birth of the trio, and I am proud of that picture and post. ❤️ I was still in a lot of pain, but wanted to document my postpartum belly. I was not 100% comfortable with sharing it, but I am so glad that I did! I think it is really important to show what a postpartum body can look like, both to normalize AND to give information about something many are not aware of + at the same time give new mothers like me credit for all that we go through in the days and weeks after giving birth. 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ This was my original text:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ #𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺 ⠀⁣⁣ 𝟷 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘪𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘺 𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘴. 👶🏼👶🏼👶🏼 ⠀⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 𝘐 𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘳𝘥 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘺, 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘺. 𝘔𝘺 𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘶𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘺𝘦𝘵. 𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘴 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘶𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭. 𝘐’𝘮 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘢 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘢 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘥/𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘣𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘱, 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘨𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘤-𝘴𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘤𝘢𝘳 hurts. 𝘐’𝘮 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬! ⠀⁣⁣ #𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘴 #𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘮 #𝟷𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘮⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Back then I didn’t know that I had a severe case of Diastasis Recti, that it would take a really long time for my belly to shrink and that I eventually would need surgery to get my body back.

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Mais ce qui nous a séduits chez Maria, c’est qu’elle n’a pas montré que le côté rose de la grossesse. Body positive, elle n’a pas hésité à poster des photos de son ventre après l’accouchement. Elle a appris à aimer cette partie d’elle, à jamais transformée par le fait de porter la vie.

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I called the hospital yesterday to hear if they have a date for the surgery (to fix my Diastasis Recti), and they said they would look into it and call me back one of the coming days. They sounded optimistic on the phone, so maybe it actually will happen in the end of September like I wished for? That all of a sudden feels like really soon! 😳 It is weird when something you have thoug⁣ht about for a long time as way into the future, is getting close and you have to deal with it for real. ⁣ The seriousness of it all has really started to sink in, and I have been reading a bit more about people’s journey after surgery in groups on Facebook. They tell about a lot of ups and downs, so it was a bit scary to read. I need to find statistics to calm down a bit more, and then just hope that I am one of the lucky ones that is happy with the result afterwards… ⁣It is a big surgery, so you never know. ⁣ Another thing that really hit me hard tonight is the fact that I will have to be really careful for at least 2 months (maybe 6 months? Any thoughts?), which means I won’t be able to carry the kids and will need to stay a bit out of reach of sudden unintended kicks, etc, that small toddlers often give. That gave me flashbacks to how it was being pregnant with the triplets during the last 3 months, and how sad it felt not being able to be as close to Mikael as I wanted (who at that time was the same age as the three little ones are now). And now there will be four that cry for their mommy? Three of which won’t understand why I am not behaving normally… ⁣❤️❤️❤️❤️ ⁣ I know it will be tough sitting there and not being allowed to be hands on, having help at home again like we did the 3 months following the birth of the trio. And yet again another surgery and a long and painfull recovery. ⁣ ⁣ But this too shall pass, I know that. ⁣ ⁣ And I am very gratefull that I get this surgery covered, thinking of all the mothers out there that do not get any help. ⁣ ⁣ I know it will be so much better in the end, if everything goes as planned, and I will be back like before, with a strong and healthy body again. 💪🏼 [Photo by Karyna Bila for her project @girlsandportraits]

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À quoi ressemble le ventre d’une maman de triplés, deux ans après ?

Dernièrement, elle a de nouveau provoqué le buzz. En effet, elle a annoncé à ses followers s’être fait opérer du ventre par nécessité, plus que pour l’esthétique. Elle a subi ce que l’on appelle une « diastase des grands droits » ou « diastasis recti » afin de réparer sa séparation abdominale post grossesse :

« Comme mon ventre s’est étiré plus que la limite lorsque j’ai porté les triplés pendant 35 semaines et 2 jours, les muscles ne se sont plus jamais réunis. »

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Surgery update, 9 hours post-op: All is good. 💪🏼 So far it has been less painful than anticipated, since they are so good at pain relief. 🙏🏼 I actually get most of the pain medication directly into the operation area through a tube, but I also had an interesting morphine ride shortly after I woke up from surgery! 🤪 It was a pretty crazy mix of hearing the voices in the room and dozing on and off dreaming about the small ones climbing everywhere and other stressful everyday situations with the kids. 😂⁣ ⁣ Ever since 2:30 PM I have been in my room at the 18th floor with Anders, getting food, sleep, medication and check-ups. I’m tired, of course, but in good spirits. And after getting a visit by my surgeon (a very lovely lady ❤️) and seing the result, both she and I are very happy about how it turned out. By belly is so flat, it’s crazy! And the scar is less wide than I thought it would be. I still haven’t seen my belly button, so that will be interesting. 😆⁣ ⁣ Right now I’m in bed with three tubes coming out of me, eating pretzel sticks and laying very still (so it doesn’t hurt) – and after I’ve finished dictating this post to Anders, we will be watching some good ol’ flow tv! 👍🏼 ⁣ ⁣ Let’s hope the night will be good as well. 🙏🏼

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Et lorsqu’on voit à quel point sa peau du ventre était étirée sur la vidéo ci-dessus, on comprend pourquoi elle a eu besoin d’avoir recours à la chirurgie. Une nouvelle accueillie avec joie par ses followers. Surtout par les mamans qui la suivent sur son compte Instagram et comprennent totalement ce qu’elle a pu vivre.

Une histoire qui nous rappelle un peu celle de Johanna, participante de l’émission « Les mamans » sur 6ter, qui a subi une opération du ventre après avoir donné naissance à Dario, Joy et Gabin le 30 août 2018.

Stop à la pression post-partum sur le corps des femmes

Vergetures, plis, peau qui pend, hanches plus larges… Le corps d’une femme se transforme forcément après une grossesse. Mais il n’y a rien de mal à cela. En vérité, c’est juste beau. Car donner la vie est un magnifique accomplissement pour toutes les femmes qui en ont envie. Et il y a en marre de s’entendre dire que, pour être acceptable, une mère doit perdre ses kilos de grossesse dans le mois qui suit l’accouchement.

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#postpartumbelly 2 years after the birth of my triplets. 👶🏼👶🏼👶🏼 And tomorrow morning is my surgery! 😷😬😆🙌🏼⁣ ⁣ ⁣⁣ I will stay at the hospital for 2-3 days, and then I will stay 2-4 days at a hotel in Carlsberg Byen. 🙏🏼 It is difficult to know in advance exactly how hard the first week will be, so I’ll need to just see when I feel ready to go home. Maybe I want to be at home with my family, or maybe I just really need to rest in peace and quiet. Time will show. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It will be so strange to actually stay in bed for a week, because I almost haven’t relaxed at all during the last 2 years. I am just so used to always doing something, and have worked up an extremely high activity level juggling 4 small kids and my fulltime work with this account. So – apart from some daily updates on stories and maybe a few posts, I will take a break from reading and answering DMs, mails and job scheduling and try to just RELAX. So that part is actually the one thing I am looking forward to amongst all the distress, discomfort and pain in the time to come. ⁣⁣ ⁣ This is what will happen during surgery, for those who are interested in the details: «Patients will require general anesthesia. A horizontal incision will be made between the belly button and the pubic area. Skin and tissue above the abdominal fascia will be undermined and elevated to the belly button. An incision will be made around the belly button to free the umbilical stalk. Abdominal dissection and elevation will continue to the bottom of the patient's rib cage. Next, the separated abdominal muscles will be stitched back together using non dissolvable sutures at several depths for better reinforcement. Once the tightening of the muscles is complete, the belly button will be reattached to the outer skin, the abdominal skin will be pulled back down to the pubic area, and incisions will be sutured close.»⁣⁣ #diastasisrectirepair #diastasisrecti

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Que ce soit à la télévision, dans les pages des magazines et même auprès de nos proches, on nous vante sans cesse les mérites de « retrouver son corps d’avant grossesse ». À coup de crèmes miracles, de régimes et bien souvent, de frustration.

Et si on fichait un peu la paix aux jeunes mamans pour une fois ? Entre le baby blues, la charge mentale et l’arrivée d’un nouveau petit être dans leur vie, elles ont franchement autre chose à penser.

Alors si vous venez juste d’accoucher, arrêtez de vous torturer. Vous êtes magnifique telle que vous êtes. Laissez-vous du temps, écoutez-vous. Il n’y a aucune obligation à perdre vos kilos de grossesse. Ne le faite que SI et QUAND vous en aurez envie !

Envie d’en discuter ? On se retrouve sur le forum, rubrique Vie de parent ou Confiance en soi. À tout de suite !

Amandine Cadilhon
Amandine Cadilhon
Journaliste mode, mes articles, mettent en lumière les diverses tendances et styles qui façonnent l'univers de la mode féminine. Mon objectif est de proposer un contenu diversifié et accessible à toutes et tous, en soulignant l'importance de l'expression personnelle et de l'empowerment à travers la mode.
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